Parenting
By: Sarah Thompson
Like many young girls, I can clearly recall the moment I experienced my first period. The unsettling sensation in my abdomen leading up to it, the sight of blood swirling in the toilet, and the awkward learning curve of managing pads and tampons are all etched in my memory. At just 10 years old, I felt isolated, convinced that I was the only girl in my fifth-grade class navigating this new reality. It was a lonely experience, laden with shame and confusion.
Fortunately, I was fortunate enough to have a supportive mother who educated me on how to approach menstruation with confidence. Even then, I wished that discussing it wasn’t so taboo; I longed for a world where menstruation wasn’t shrouded in guilt and embarrassment. It’s important to recognize that girls deserve respect and celebration when they begin their menstrual journeys. The arrival of their period signifies a pivotal transition into womanhood—a remarkable milestone that should be honored.
Unfortunately, in many cultures, the first period is still viewed as a subject that should remain unspoken. However, in numerous other cultures, this significant life event is celebrated and embraced. Menstruation is seen as a girl’s rite of passage into womanhood, deserving of reverence and acknowledgment.
The Sri Lankan Tradition
Take, for instance, the Sri Lankan coming-of-age ceremony known as poopunitha neerathu vizha. This tradition includes two main events: a private religious observance followed by a grand public celebration. As described by a mother, Rina Perera, “When a girl receives her first period, her close relatives are notified, and she undergoes a ceremonial bath with saffron and milk. A few days later, a priest conducts a blessing ceremony. For this occasion, she wears a sari for the first time, symbolizing her transition into womanhood.” Shortly thereafter, an extravagant party ensues, complete with limousine services, cake, and celebrations that can cost families up to $20,000.
This may sound foreign to many of us, but for the girls involved, such celebrations are commonplace, much like Sweet Sixteens or Bar Mitzvahs. “All my friends had a party, so I was excited to have one too,” shares Nisha, one of the girls featured in the Globe and Mail article.
Celebrations Around the World
The celebration of a girl’s first period is not unique to Sri Lanka. The Beng women of the Ivory Coast also acknowledge this milestone by showering the girl with gifts and treating her like royalty. Similarly, within Navajo culture, the celebration unfolds over several days, where girls are dressed in their finest attire, feasted, pampered, and surrounded by singing and dancing. And of course, cake is always a part of the festivities.
As we reflect on these practices, it’s worth considering whether adopting a “period party” could be beneficial for our own daughters. While our culture often perpetuates secrecy and shame around menstruation, some families are taking steps to change that narrative. In 2012, a website named Menarche Parties R Us emerged, offering period party kits filled with decorations, games, and more. For those preferring a DIY approach, Pinterest is overflowing with ideas for crafting and celebrating this important transition.
You may even recall the inspiring story about 12-year-old Emma Johnson, who had a fantastic “period party” organized by her mother. The celebration featured a “Congrats On Your Period” cake adorned with red icing and thoughtfully wrapped gifts containing pads and tampons. What made the story remarkable was Emma’s radiant smile and her unapologetic pride in embracing this new chapter.
Regardless of whether a “period party” resonates with your family, we should all strive to foster a positive environment for girls as they navigate this significant milestone. A girl’s first period should not be a source of stress or embarrassment but rather a moment to celebrate her strength and beauty as she transitions into womanhood.
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In summary, acknowledging the significance of a girl’s first period and creating a supportive atmosphere can transform how she views her body and womanhood. It’s essential to celebrate this milestone with honor and respect.