Parenting is a remarkable experience, and observing your child evolve into a young adult is truly awe-inspiring.
As I cradled my firstborn, I glanced at the clock on the wall. It read 2:32 a.m., marking his first full day of life. In the hospital, I was attempting to teach him how to nurse, aware that I was just as inexperienced as he was. We were both starting this journey together, learning the ropes side by side. It feels as if he has been with me forever, yet it was just moments ago that I held him for the first time. Together, we navigated the early challenges of motherhood.
Fast forward a few years, and I find myself in the living room watching my little one walk around, tossing toys from his bin. He’s become increasingly demanding, always seeking my attention. It’s a beautiful chaos, one that leaves me both exhilarated and utterly spent. Juggling his needs along with nurturing his sister growing within me has drained my energy. I often imagine the day he’ll become more independent, a time when he won’t rely on me for every little thing. In a short span, he has taught me the depths of love and frustration, a mix that is as overwhelming as it is beautiful.
Then there I am, bending down to help him with his shoes, only to realize he has them on the wrong feet. With his younger brother on my hip, I struggle to teach him how to tie them, but he is stubborn and wants to do it alone. His frustration escalates, pushing me to my limits, and I ultimately tie his shoes for him. We need to get out of the house; fresh air and caffeine are calling my name, and I hope for just a moment of respite to recharge before diving back into the demanding world of motherhood.
Before long, he reaches fourth grade. He requests Angry Bird cupcakes for his birthday celebration at school, and I happily oblige, staying up late to craft them. At this stage, I finally manage to put the kids to bed and they stay asleep through the night, granting me the energy to take on these little projects. The next morning, he is ecstatic about the cupcakes, but his teenage self soon emerges when he insists I don’t bring them into his classroom because it would be “so embarrassing.” I comply, knowing this will likely be the last year he asks for such a celebration.
As time flies by, he’s now 11 years old, riding his old bike and working with his grandfather to save money for a new mountain bike. The day he finally makes the purchase, I see him conversing with the salesman, and I catch a glimpse of the young man he is becoming. He looks different somehow, more mature and self-assured.
Now, at almost 14, he prepares for his first semi-formal dance at the end of junior high. “Do you need a corsage or flowers?” I ask. He quickly replies, “No, Mom. People don’t do that. How dumb.” I trust his judgment, and we arrive without any flowers. After dropping him and his friend off, they plead with me to leave, so I park a little way down the road to watch them await their dates.
How did we arrive at this moment? One day, we are teaching our children simple tasks like tying their shoes, and the next, we are witnesses to their first significant social events. They teach us valuable lessons along the way, just as we guide them.
Occasionally, I catch a glimpse of my child engaged in mundane tasks, such as fixing his hair or preparing a sandwich. He knows I’m watching, but he is oblivious to the feelings swirling within me—nostalgia, love, and a hint of guilt for the moments I’ve been away. He doesn’t perceive how deeply I cherish him or that I see him not only as the young man he is becoming but also as that helpless infant I first held in my arms.
They have no idea they are stealing my breath away.
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