Amber Tamblyn is making it clear: the focus should remain on the victims, not the potential redemption of men whose careers have imploded due to sexual misconduct allegations. In a compelling op-ed for The New York Times, Tamblyn shifts the narrative from the consequences faced by these men to the need for atonement for the harm they have caused.
Her reflections were sparked during a conversation with two prominent writers—one male and one female—about the fallout from the wave of sexual harassment claims. The male participant attempted to differentiate between the misconduct of figures like Louis C.K., who exposed himself to female colleagues, and Harvey Weinstein, whose actions included rape and coercion. He argued against lumping these offenders together. The female writer, however, firmly countered, asserting, “Yes, we can and we will. Choosing consequences doesn’t belong to you anymore.”
When the man asked Tamblyn if she believed in redemption, she delivered a powerful response: “It’s a valid question. But it’s also a question that makes me deeply suspicious of its timing. Why do we need to talk about the redemption of men when we are right in the middle of the salvation of women?” Tamblyn’s words resonate. Why should the focus shift to the futures of these men when women are only beginning to share their stories and seek justice?
Tamblyn emphasizes the shift in narrative, stating, “We’ve been silent because we’ve been silenced.” Now, as women begin to speak out, consequences for these actions are finally being felt. She recognizes the discomfort within the industry regarding this decisive change, citing the case of Matt Lauer, whose career ended abruptly after years of success. “The only way to enforce seismic, cultural change in the way men relate to women is to draw a line deep in the sand and say: This is what we will no longer tolerate,” she asserts.
Despite the hope for cultural transformation, Tamblyn acknowledges a troubling reality: many of these men could potentially stage a comeback, armed with insincere apologies and lessons learned. As her friend pointed out, they would need to “find a new power” to regain any form of influence.
Tamblyn concludes by reinforcing the idea that “redemption must be preceded by atonement.” She emphasizes that true change requires acknowledging the harm done and making amends. It’s a powerful reminder that in this reckoning against toxic masculinity, it’s crucial to prioritize the voices of those who have been harmed.
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In summary, Amber Tamblyn’s op-ed serves as a powerful reminder that the conversation surrounding accountability must prioritize the victims and their stories. Instead of contemplating redemption for abusers, we should focus on the essential work of healing and justice for those who have suffered.