Preschool serves as a transitional phase for young children. On one end lies the comforting familiarity of home, where every moment is spent in the nurturing presence of their parents. On the other end is the structured environment of a classroom, where they begin to engage with peers and learn new behaviors. Navigating this bridge can prove to be challenging.
Our decision to enroll our son in preschool stemmed from a desire for him to socialize with other children. We aimed to help him adjust to the classroom atmosphere, hoping he would adopt appropriate behavior in this new setting. However, some days he grasps these concepts well, while other days, he struggles.
This journey has prompted me to reflect on my own perspectives, particularly regarding the expectation for my son to “sit still” in class. I understand that this view may not be widely shared. I used to be concerned about it, especially during those daily pickups when I felt compelled to engage in a mini parent-teacher conference. While many kids in his class breeze through circle time without distractions, my son often finds it difficult.
Then, it struck me—he’s in preschool. The emphasis here is on “pre.” His behavior is typical for his age, even if he faces more challenges than some classmates. Expecting a child aged four or five to remain still and absorb instruction for extended periods is unrealistic. I liken the need to fidget to an itch: if I can’t scratch it, it consumes my thoughts. So, I work closely with his teacher to explore strategies that allow him to satisfy this need to move.
In seeking methods to accommodate my son’s fidgeting, I discovered how prevalent this issue is. An entire industry exists to help children fidget in class. Research indicates that allowing kids to fidget can enhance their focus. Innovative solutions include modified chairs that offer sensory feedback, yoga balls replacing standard seating, and rubber bands attached to desk legs for bouncing feet. Standing desks are also gaining popularity among both kids and adults.
When children can fidget without fixating on their discomfort with sitting, they become more engaged with the lessons at hand. Just like my son’s preschool class, some kids manage to sit still without much effort, while others may display a more restless nature. Each child is unique, and it’s crucial to recognize their diverse learning styles.
I am not suggesting that children should have free rein to disrupt the classroom environment. We maintain certain expectations. While some movement is acceptable, invading personal space is not, and my son understands this distinction. I expect him to follow the teacher’s instructions, and we regularly discuss the importance of being considerate to his classmates. Disrespectful behavior is simply not tolerated, but it’s vital to differentiate between being a lively child and being disrespectful.
These days, when I pick my son up from preschool, I still chat with his teacher to understand what is or isn’t working for him. I empathize with her during the tougher days, and she reciprocates that understanding. This open communication has alleviated my frustration. I no longer feel embarrassed or compelled to reprimand him for simply being a four-year-old.
By letting go of unrealistic expectations and making the necessary accommodations, my son has become happier, enjoys school more, and navigates transitions with greater ease. Naturally, this shift has made me a more content mother as well.
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In summary, preschoolers should not be held to the expectation of sitting still for long periods. Understanding their natural tendencies to move and accommodating those needs can lead to a more positive and productive learning environment.