When I unexpectedly lost my job in publishing back in 2010, I was ready for a fresh start. The exhausting daily commute from Long Island to Manhattan—often with a stranger’s elbow digging into my side—stole precious moments from my family. I planned to find something closer to home, but fate intervened, and I ended up staying at home. Fast forward six and a half years, and I’ve come to realize just how unprepared I was for this journey.
My career in magazine publishing began before I even graduated college. During my final semester, I interned at a well-known magazine which quickly turned into a full-time job. Over the next 11 years, I enjoyed the fast-paced environment of Wenner Media, where I got to rub elbows with rock stars and celebrities. The day I was let go was a whirlwind of surprise and relief.
A year prior to my layoff, I had started crafting custom photo mats as gifts for friends. Just nine days after losing my job, I opened my Etsy shop, Crafty Creations, and I’ve been working from my basement office ever since.
Let me clarify: I’m not here to complain, but to share my experience as a stay-at-home mom. I know many would love to swap places with me, and while I face my own challenges, I recognize how fortunate I am.
The Freedom of Not Caring About Appearance
One of the perks of being a stay-at-home mom is the freedom to forego the daily routine of getting dressed. The other parents at the bus stop don’t judge my look, and the staff at local stores are indifferent to my attire. Living in leggings has its advantages, but it can also lead to a slippery slope—before you know it, you’re in pajamas at 3 p.m. craving Taco Bell. Is this really how adults should behave?
My Trusty Refrigerator
My refrigerator is my constant companion, keeping my snacks and meals ready at all times. While this is a blessing for healthy eaters, it’s not quite my reality. As a result, I’ve put on about 20 pounds over the past six years. Sure, I could make healthier choices, but the motivation just isn’t there right now.
The Drinks
Another little indulgence has become a staple of my evenings. In my previous life as a working professional, I rarely had time for wine nights with friends, but now that I’m in charge of my schedule, those evenings have become more frequent. With my snacking habits, let’s just say I might need to upsize my leggings soon.
Being My Own Boss
Running my own business offers flexibility and an extra income stream, but it also means I wear many hats: IT specialist, accountant, and printer repairperson, none of which I’m truly qualified for. Gone are the days of collaborating with colleagues in a bustling office; now I’m isolated in my small basement, dodging spiders and talking to myself. Quite the change!
From Breadwinner to Dependent
I transitioned from being the main earner to feeling like a financial burden. My business provides some extra cash, but it’s not like I’m inventing the next big thing. While everything we have belongs to both my husband and me, I can’t shake the feeling that I’m not contributing as I used to. My splurges at high-end stores have been replaced with bargain hunts at discount retailers.
The Gift of Time
The greatest advantage I’ve gained is time. Time spent with my kids, time for my husband, and time to contemplate my next steps in life. I relish the moments I can make lunches, send my kids off to school, and be involved in their lives without having to rely on babysitters. I recognize that this luxury isn’t available to everyone, and I truly value it, even if I sometimes resemble a disheveled character from a comedy film.
Having experienced both the working mom and stay-at-home mom roles, I’ve learned that both paths come with their own sacrifices. Your worth as a mother isn’t determined by whether you work outside the home or stay in; what truly matters is the love and safety you provide for your children—and keeping that wine fridge stocked.
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Summary
Being a stay-at-home mom comes with its unique set of challenges and rewards. From the freedom of a relaxed wardrobe to the complexities of running a home-based business, the experience can be both liberating and isolating. Ultimately, the most important aspect is the time spent nurturing and loving your family.