As a parent, outings with my son often lead to unexpected moments, like when nature calls for both of us. In the past, it was perfectly acceptable to take my young son into the women’s restroom without anyone batting an eye. Young boys with their mothers are a common sight, and honestly, my priority was my own comfort and the urgency of my bladder rather than worrying about who else was in there.
However, as my son, Jake, has transitioned into his teenage years, things have changed. I mean, how dare he grow up? I still envision him as that little boy in a colorful romper, stomping around in his chunky shoes, pretending to be a mini superhero. But now, I find myself with a 5-foot-4 lanky teen, complete with hairy legs and a voice that’s deepening by the day, trailing behind me into public restrooms.
Why Do I Still Take Him into the Women’s Restroom?
You might wonder why I still take him into the women’s restroom. The truth is, I’m not comfortable sending him into most bathrooms alone. I’ve started planning my errands around locations that offer single-stall restrooms, where I can send him in without worry while ensuring his safety.
It’s not just about him, though; I have to use the restroom too. The idea of splitting up and hoping we both finish quickly is a recipe for anxiety. And let’s be honest—women’s restrooms typically have longer wait times. Seriously, why does it take so long? Oh, right, it’s often because we’re juggling kids with us!
So, when you see my son accompanying me into the women’s restroom, please understand it’s out of necessity. You have two options: accept it or advocate for more family-friendly and gender-neutral restrooms. After all, everyone’s comfort matters, and until more inclusive facilities are available, he will continue to walk in with me.
Understanding Our Situation
Jake has autism and an intellectual disability, which means I need to be a protective parent. I’m simply ensuring his safety, and if that makes you uncomfortable, that’s on you. It’s not easy for him either—at 13, he wants to assert his independence, and I get that. I can see the looks from others as he walks in behind me, but I’m confident he knows bathroom etiquette, including putting the seat down.
At this point, I’ve become immune to the judgmental glances. If you’re bothered by our presence, I’d say, “Take a picture; it’ll last longer.” What other choice do I have? Should I stay home, compromise his safety, or ignore my own needs? I refuse to let anyone’s discomfort dictate our freedom to exist in public spaces.
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Conclusion
In summary, a mother’s instinct to protect her child often means making tough choices. Until we see more inclusive restroom options, I’ll continue to bring my son with me, prioritizing his safety and comfort over any societal norms.