Aug. 23, 2023
If I received a dollar for every time someone inquired about my child’s preschool status, I’d be living quite comfortably. The number of times I’ve been asked this question, followed by incredulous looks when I respond with, “No, my child isn’t in preschool,” is beyond count. Sometimes, I even get unsolicited advice on why my child absolutely needs to attend preschool, implying that I’m making a grave mistake.
Here’s my reality check. Preschool fees are exorbitant, especially in cities like Los Angeles. While I could return to work and allocate most of my earnings towards preschool, I’d face the dilemma of what to do with my younger child. Two preschool tuitions? Not in this lifetime. The notion that I should’ve started scouting for preschools while I was still pregnant is absurd. And let’s not even begin to discuss free preschool options; we apparently make too much to qualify for those. As for transitional kindergarten, my daughter’s birthdate excludes her from that eligibility as well.
I’m fully aware of the advantages that preschool brings. Truth be told, I once thought my children would definitely attend preschool. That was before I recognized the financial realities.
Let’s clear a common misconception: stay-at-home moms don’t simply lounge around watching daytime talk shows and snacking on ice cream. (I save that for after the kids are asleep.) My daughter is brilliant. She knows her numbers, shapes, spelling, planets, and how to use scissors, among other things. She’s social, albeit a tad shy, and we ensure she interacts with peers through regular playdates and group activities. Our family enjoys educational outings to museums focused on art, space, and natural history, where she learns immensely. She’s participated in soccer, gymnastics, and dance, cultivating not just social skills but also the ability to follow instructions from coaches and teachers.
To those who suggest that preschool might help her overcome her shyness, I say, “Maybe.” However, I went to preschool and was painfully shy myself—hiding behind my mom’s legs and clinging to her until well into elementary school. Kids are unique, and preschool alone doesn’t guarantee confidence.
It’s important to note that preschool is not a mandatory step (neither is kindergarten in California). My daughter will only be this age once, and I am committed to cherishing this time and preparing her for the future. I refuse to apologize or justify my choices to family, friends, or random strangers who feel entitled to impart parenting advice. My child is amazing, and I’m doing a fantastic job raising her.
For those who have their kids in preschool, I genuinely commend you for making that choice. It’s a wonderful opportunity, just not one that fits our family’s current situation. If you are considering options for family planning, you might find our post on the Cryobaby at Home Insemination Kit helpful. Additionally, if you’re looking for credible information on fertility treatments, check out this excellent resource from Johns Hopkins Medicine. For more insights on parenting styles and choices, you can visit Modern Family Blog.
In summary, my decision not to enroll my child in preschool stems from various personal and financial considerations. While I understand the benefits, my focus is on nurturing her growth in ways that work for our family.