The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) and the American Academy of Pediatrics strongly recommend that children remain in rear-facing car seats until they reach the age of two. Thankfully, car seat manufacturers are now producing models that accommodate higher rear-facing height and weight limits, allowing parents to prioritize safety for their little ones for a longer period of time.
As a parent of tall children — both of whom are in the 98th to 99th percentiles for height — I understand how challenging it can be to keep them rear-facing as they grow. It’s not uncommon to hear comments from friends and family questioning whether my kids have enough room back there or why I haven’t turned them around yet. My response is always the same: They are safer rear-facing.
Rear-facing car seats provide critical support for a child’s head, neck, and spine in a way that forward-facing seats simply cannot. In the event of a collision, rear-facing seats are designed to absorb much of the impact. Studies indicate that children in rear-facing car seats are five times less likely to suffer fatal or severe injuries during a crash. Yes, you read that right — five times. That statistic alone is enough motivation for me to keep my children rear-facing for as long as possible.
I understand that there are many reasons parents consider turning their children around earlier than recommended. We all want what is best for our kids, and sometimes it can feel overwhelming to stick to the rear-facing guideline. Some children experience motion sickness when rear-facing, while others may protest loudly or cry, making it difficult for parents to focus while driving.
For those prone to carsickness, the backward position can exacerbate the feeling of nausea. However, there are ways to mitigate this issue. Blocking side windows with shades can help, as can allowing your child to look out the rear window, which may provide a more stable perspective. Adjusting the angle of the car seat to be as upright as safety allows and, if possible, removing the vehicle’s headrest can also improve visibility and comfort.
Dealing with a child who is upset while rear-facing is undoubtedly a challenge. No parent enjoys listening to their child cry while trying to navigate the road. If you’ve confirmed that your child isn’t in pain, finding distractions can be beneficial. Special toys that are only available during car rides have worked wonders for me. For instance, my children have LeapFrog stuffed animals that sing personalized songs, and I only bring those out during our drives. Additionally, picking up small coloring kits or inexpensive Magna Doodle pads from Target’s Dollar Spot can provide a welcome distraction. I’ve even allowed my kids to have fun with stickers in the car — it might create a bit of a mess, but it keeps them entertained and secure.
For many families, time spent in the car is inevitable, whether it’s for appointments, social visits, or errands. This reality can make challenging trips seem even more daunting, especially when you can’t simply decide to skip a necessary outing. If all else fails and nothing seems to soothe your little ones, I recommend focusing on your own comfort. Play music that you enjoy or listen to a podcast, as these moments can provide a much-needed distraction from the inevitable cries of protest.
If the situation becomes unbearable, pulling over to stretch your legs can provide relief for both you and your child. Sometimes, you just have to power through. And if your child continues to scream despite your best efforts, know that you’re not alone. I’ve been there countless times, and it’s utterly heart-wrenching. Hearing your child cry can lead to feelings of guilt and stress, and the urge to turn them around can feel overwhelming.
However, always keep that critical statistic in mind. Your child is five times more likely to be safe in a crash when they remain rear-facing. Remember that their temporary discomfort is far outweighed by the safety they gain by staying rear-facing.
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Summary
Keeping your child in a rear-facing car seat until the age of two is crucial for their safety, even if they express discomfort. The benefits of this position include better support for their head, neck, and spine, and a significantly reduced risk of severe injury in a crash. While it can be challenging to manage a child who dislikes being rear-facing, distractions and comfort measures can help. Always prioritize their safety by adhering to recommended guidelines, and remember that their temporary unhappiness is worth the protection it provides.