Texting Your Teen: A Surprising Way to Foster Communication

Recently, I received a call from my daughter’s high school counselor, who informed me that my daughter had been seeking her out more frequently. Today was particularly tough for her.

“I just dropped her off at school, and she seemed cheerful,” I replied.

“Well, she’s been visiting me quite a bit lately, and today she was in tears. I recommend you consider therapy for her if you haven’t already,” the counselor advised.

As our conversation continued, she shared more details without breaching my daughter’s confidentiality. It took me a moment to process the situation. My daughter and I are very close, and while I was aware of her past mental health struggles, she had recently appeared to be in a good place—motivated, completing her assignments, and smiling more than I had seen in a long time.

When she returned home from school, however, she was unusually quiet. After settling in and allowing her brothers to unwind, I approached her room for a heart-to-heart. I knew it might be challenging, as my daughter has always found it difficult to express her feelings. If I pressed too hard, she would completely shut down, making it even tougher for her to share.

I reassured her of my love and support, mentioning that I had reached out to some therapists. I asked her several times what was bothering her and how I could help. After a half-hour of minimal progress, I decided to give her some space.

Then, I had an idea: I sent her a text. I posed the same questions I had asked earlier in person. This time, I received thoughtful responses. She was able to articulate her feelings and what she needed from me. I felt a weight lift, and when she bounded down the stairs a few moments later, I knew she felt better too.

This experience echoed with my older son, who has faced challenges like breakups and academic struggles. In moments when he was upset, I often found it hard to get him to talk. However, during one particularly tough time, I texted him, and we ended up having a meaningful exchange that broke through the communication barrier.

Admittedly, I was frustrated to discover that texting was a more effective way to connect. I’ve always hoped my teenagers would communicate face-to-face rather than relying solely on their phones. But for my family, texting consistently opens the door to difficult conversations.

Growing up without constant access to phones, I often wrote letters to my parents or friends when I needed to express something. It helped me understand the importance of sharing my thoughts. Similarly, our kids’ phones serve a purpose; it can be much easier for them to articulate their feelings via text rather than in person. I’ve realized that just because texting isn’t my preferred mode of communication doesn’t mean it lacks value.

In my opinion, any form of communication with teenagers is significant, and we should embrace every opportunity to engage with them. If texting helps us navigate tough discussions, then I consider that a success.

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Summary:

Texting your teen can be an effective way to encourage them to open up about their feelings, especially when face-to-face communication proves challenging. Through texting, parents can bridge the gap in communication, allowing for deeper conversations that can enhance relationships and promote emotional well-being.