In today’s parenting landscape, the concept of sharing has come under scrutiny. Every few months, I come across a parent openly denouncing the idea of sharing, proclaiming that it’s “weird” and discussing the significance of teaching boundaries. While the internet often rallies behind these “anti-sharing” sentiments with enthusiastic reactions, I find myself bewildered, questioning: What happened to the age-old belief that “sharing is caring”? Am I the only one who recognizes the value of teaching our children to share?
Recently, a mother gained attention online with her post titled “MY CHILD IS NOT REQUIRED TO SHARE WITH YOURS,” passionately arguing against the idea of sharing at the park when other children wanted to play with her son’s toys. The response was overwhelmingly supportive, with many applauding her stance. However, while I commend any parent who advocates for their child’s comfort and autonomy, I firmly believe that it’s entirely possible to teach our children the importance of both sharing and setting boundaries. Here’s why I stand by the practice of sharing:
People Matter More Than Possessions
At first glance, sharing may seem unnecessary, but to me, acts of kindness and helping others—regardless of whether we know them—is incredibly significant. Some argue that we don’t share our cars or furniture, but I do. If a neighbor asked to borrow my car, I’d likely agree. We often “share” items through Goodwill, garage sales, or informal exchanges. Just last weekend, I swapped my treadmill with a friend’s dresser. My philosophy is simple: if I have something that could help someone else, I’m more than willing to share because relationships are far more valuable than material possessions.
A viral social media post by a parent highlighted a scenario where she would decline sharing her sandwich at the park. While I understand this perspective, I would willingly share my food with someone in need, like a homeless person, because I have enough to spare. The same applies to lending my phone or office supplies. Personally, I’d gladly say yes to those requests.
Teaching Kids to Share Is Not Hypocrisy
Beliefs such as universal healthcare and fair wages inherently rely on the idea of sharing resources for the greater good. I want my children to understand that sharing their toys is a small but significant step toward fostering a more equitable society. Expecting them to share their inexpensive toys aligns with my values of fairness and justice.
Sharing and Boundaries Can Coexist
While it’s easy to teach children to simply refuse sharing, the real challenge lies in helping them learn to collaborate and find common ground. It’s about teaching them to take turns and work together, whether it’s in the sandbox or within their relationships. We can encourage children to have a few cherished items they don’t have to share, while still promoting a culture of generosity.
Learning Non-Attachment for a Happier Life
Though I’m not particularly religious, I appreciate some Buddhist principles, such as non-attachment. This philosophy encourages us to enjoy what we have without clinging too tightly. By embracing non-attachment, we can navigate sharing and loss more easily, adapting to life’s inevitable shifts.
Recognizing Luck and Responsibility
Let’s face it: my kids didn’t earn the toys they have; they were fortunate to be born into a family that can afford them. With this privilege comes the expectation to share, as the saying goes, “to whom much is given, much is expected.”
The Benefits of Sharing Beyond Possessions
Instead of refusing to share when a child at the park wants to use a toy, what if we guided our kids on how to share or take turns? They might just form new friendships or learn valuable lessons in patience. Sharing not only fosters kindness but also builds essential life skills.
While some may view sharing as outdated, I remain a firm believer in its importance—except when it comes to my secret stash of chocolate, of course! Just kidding (sort of).
In conclusion, sharing can help cultivate empathy, gratitude, and social skills in our children. For more insights on parenting and family dynamics, check out this excellent resource on pregnancy and home insemination: Cleveland Clinic, and for further reading on related topics, visit Modern Family Blog.