Learning the Hard Way: Why I’m Thankful My Daughter Was Caught Shoplifting

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Last summer, while my kids were enjoying a week away with their father, I took a moment to relax on my deck, soaking up the sunshine and convincing myself that I could manage just fine without them, at least for a week. This separation was always more challenging for me than for them. Just as I began to doze off, my phone rang — it was an unexpected call from my ex-husband.

My heart raced as I answered. “I have some bad news,” he said. Instantly, I panicked, “Is everyone okay? What’s happened?”

“Everyone is fine,” he reassured me. “But we’ve had to spend the afternoon at the police station. Your daughter, Mia, took a ring while shopping and got caught.”

My mind raced with concern for Mia: Was she scared? Was she alright? Did she cry?

“She’s fine. Just quiet,” he replied. “She didn’t cry.”

I needed to hear her voice. I could read Mia better than anyone else, and I wanted to make sure she was okay. When we spoke, she was terse, defensive, and annoyed. This was typical behavior for her when she knew she’d messed up; she becomes snippy and withdraws from the conversation. I knew it would take time for her remorse to surface.

I learned the full story from her dad. Mia was shopping with her cousins when they stumbled upon some rings that had fallen from a bin onto the floor. They figured that without price tags, these rings must be free. They giggled and tried them on, oblivious to the consequences. The store had surveillance footage of them, and soon after, the police were involved. As they were four hours from home, my ex decided to take Mia to the local police station to face the music right away.

Mia was required to write an apology letter to the store, which she completed that same day. Due to their location, her court date would be set closer to home.

Upon her return, it was clear Mia was distressed. She cried often, reflecting on how unnecessary her actions were. The ring was worth only a dollar, something her father would have gladly purchased for her. She had plenty of money saved from her summer job. When I asked her why she did it, she simply shrugged.

I was flooded with questions and concerns: Is this a sign of a deeper issue? How many times had she done something like this before? Could I ever trust her to shop with friends again? I felt a mix of shame, embarrassment, and anger towards her for making such a poor choice. However, I recalled my own teenage missteps, like the time I swiped candy from a store or hosted a party under my mom’s nose. We often think we’re invincible, that bad choices won’t catch up with us; teens, especially, feel they’re smarter than their parents.

Mia’s court date came six months later, and seeing her being fingerprinted was heart-wrenching. She apologized to the judge, who assigned her ten hours of community service to be completed within two months. I made it clear that she needed to find a place to serve and organize her schedule. She chose to volunteer at a local food bank. Unfortunately, this incident would stay on her record for a while due to her age.

While I wish this situation had never happened, I’m relieved she faced real consequences rather than just a warning. Completing community service was a challenge and meant sacrificing precious time with friends. As difficult as it was to watch her navigate this experience, I believe the repercussions had a more profound impact on her than anything I could have said. Sometimes, our kids need to learn from painful experiences, and this was certainly one of those moments.

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Summary:

In this reflective piece, Rebecca Lane shares the story of her daughter Mia’s experience with shoplifting, which led to valuable lessons about consequences and responsibility. While initially distressed by the incident, Rebecca ultimately recognizes the importance of allowing Mia to face the repercussions of her actions, believing that painful lessons can lead to growth and maturity.

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