When I reprimand my older kids, it’s not the one in trouble who displays emotion; instead, it’s my 5-year-old son who tears up. His distress arises not from his own actions, but from the realization that one of his brothers is facing consequences.
During our family walks, if one of us wanders off, he becomes anxious until that person returns. He is the one who asks for extra coins to leave at gumball machines, ensuring that other children can enjoy a treat even if they don’t have the means.
He is always the first to apologize, to empathize, and to extend a helping hand. Right now, he finds immense joy in uplifting others. His kind and compassionate spirit is an extraordinary aspect of his character. While I feel hopeful about the positive impact he could have on the world, I also experience a deep fear. The world can be harsh to those who are sensitive and gentle. It is both a blessing and a challenge to raise a child with such a tender heart.
As I reflect on his future, I am reminded of a quote from one of my favorite novels, “Fall on Your Knees” by Ann-Marie MacDonald. She writes about the anxiety and awe of finding a seam of gold and the difficulty of extracting it without losing its value. His heart is that seam of gold, a treasure I must nurture until he fully understands its worth. I genuinely hope he retains his sweetness and grows into a warmhearted man. Yet, in our society, sensitivity in men is often viewed as a weakness, which is utterly absurd. The slow pace of societal change adds to my worries, as he will likely face challenges throughout his childhood.
How can I ensure that he develops his sensitivity without becoming a target for those who might take advantage of it? It feels like a daunting challenge, one that I have taken on without a clear roadmap. I want him to ignore anyone who pushes him to “man up” or to conform to their expectations. I wish for him to understand that staying true to himself will cultivate an inner strength that is formidable. The attributes that feel burdensome at times can also be his greatest gifts, as long as he doesn’t let others change how he perceives them.
But how do I impart this wisdom when I sometimes struggle with it myself? My role is to nurture his compassionate nature and hope it becomes resilient enough to withstand life’s inevitable challenges. I will be his rock when the world tries to wear him down, praying that the hardships he faces are minimal.
As a mother, the worry is ever-present; it’s part of the journey. Regardless of how old he becomes or how hardened by the world he might feel, I will always see my sweet, gentle boy who stacks coins on gumball machines to share his fortune with others.
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Summary:
This article reflects on the challenges of raising a sensitive son in a world that often undervalues empathy and kindness in men. The author expresses both excitement and concern for her child’s future, emphasizing the importance of nurturing his compassionate nature while equipping him to face societal pressures. The piece also links to resources on pregnancy and home insemination for further reading.