Why I Discuss Sexual Education with My Teens Regularly

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The more open conversations we have, the more comfortable everyone becomes.

The first time I broached the topic of sex with my eldest child, he was just in kindergarten. I realized I was somewhat late to the discussion; another kid had already filled him in, but let’s just say the details were a bit off base. I wanted him to get the accurate information from me, so I seized the moment to clarify what sex really is.

Our conversation was brief and surprisingly easy. It struck me then that I would need to continue these discussions as my children grew older—this was when I craved good information the most.

Now that my kids are dating, I frequently remind them about the importance of protection if they choose to be sexually active. They are aware of my views on casual, consensual relationships, partly due to a local radio show we listen to every morning on our way to school. It’s a great opportunity for me to share my thoughts and guidance on the subject.

Here’s why I believe that the “sex talk” should happen more than once in our home:

I Want Them to Understand That Sex is Normal

Sex is a natural part of life, and I want my kids to know that discussing it openly won’t lead to shame or guilt. By being approachable and relaxed about the subject, I encourage them to come to me with their questions or concerns, which they often do.

I Encourage Open Communication

I never want my kids to feel that they can’t come to me with anything. While it might be easier for them to discuss these topics with their friends, I know I have the experience and knowledge to guide them. Even if I’m not their first choice for a chat, I want them to feel that they can approach me without fear of judgment.

I Aim to Be Their Safe Space

Even if my teens go for stretches without discussing sex, unexpected situations may arise with their partners that leave them confused or unsure. I want to be the person they can turn to for support and understanding, without any judgment.

Navigating Modern Relationships

The landscape of dating and relationships is vastly different from when I was a teenager in the ’90s. With new challenges and confusion surrounding these topics, having someone trustworthy to confide in can be incredibly helpful.

The Power of Ongoing Dialogue

Frequent discussions about sex make it easier for everyone involved. Just like any other skill, the more you practice open communication about sex, the more natural it becomes. As the CDC suggests, a series of ongoing conversations is far more beneficial than a single talk.

The benefits of talking regularly about sex with your kids are clear.

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