Why, you might ask? Because I am a Black woman who once experienced life as a little Black girl. My journey included attending both predominantly white and predominantly Black schools, which shaped my understanding of race in profound ways. While I cherish these experiences, I must admit: at times, they were burdensome.
Why should a 5-year-old have to justify her hair to her white peers? Why does a 10-year-old need to explain why she speaks the way she does to other Black kids? And why, at 17, should she face inquiries from church members about her choice not to attend a historically Black college? The unfortunate truth is that if you’re anything other than white in America, you’ll encounter questions about your race, and they often start just years after birth.
To combat this, I am dedicated to instilling a deep sense of self-love and appreciation in my children. I am unapologetic about my choices. Are you upset that I choose to buy my kids dolls that reflect their heritage? So be it. Do you frown upon my daughter wearing a head wrap? So what. Are you confused by the unique styles in her braids? That’s not my concern. Do you feel uncomfortable when my child wears a shirt celebrating her melanin? Too bad. And if you think I go overboard by reading books authored by Black writers in my kids’ classrooms, I don’t mind at all.
It’s essential for my children to recognize and take pride in their Blackness. This pride equips them with the confidence needed to stand up for themselves when faced with questions. I didn’t find this confidence until my 20s, and by then, I had to work through years of self-doubt.
Addressing Common Misconceptions
Let’s address a common misconception: being pro-Black does not equate to being anti-other races. Why do people struggle to understand this? My focus on promoting Black identity stems from the glaring absence of representation in various spheres. Is it possible to nurture self-love in our children while also respecting others? Absolutely.
So, the next time you see my child sporting her melanin-themed apparel, remember that she’s proudly embracing who she is. Additionally, my daughter is wearing items from Black-owned businesses, reinforcing the importance of supporting our community. You can find her fabulous head wrap here, and check out her trendy tees here and here.
Equipping Ourselves with Knowledge
As we navigate these conversations, it’s vital to equip ourselves with knowledge and resources. For those interested in family planning, this is an excellent guide on pregnancy and home insemination. And if you’re looking for more insights, be sure to explore this informative article on infertility solutions.
In summary, empowering our children to embrace their identity is crucial in a world that often challenges them. By instilling pride in their Blackness, we prepare them to navigate their unique journeys with confidence and respect for others.