As summer rolls in, it’s a time many stay-at-home or work-at-home parents look forward to. Sure, we still have a mountain of tasks to tackle, but the rigid school-year schedule takes a backseat for a few blissful months. However, summer brings its own set of challenges—and I’m not just talking about the endless supply of popsicles that somehow vanish before the week is out.
I’m referring to the phenomenon where our homes become the go-to hangout for other kids the moment they utter that all-too-familiar phrase, “I’m bored!” You know the type: they show up at your door before you’ve had your morning coffee and stick around until you awkwardly suggest, “Shouldn’t you check in with your parents?” These kids come over daily, devouring your snacks and soaking up your air conditioning as if they were part of the family.
Now, I’m not a total Grinch. I enjoy having my kids’ friends over; it’s great for keeping them entertained and minimizing sibling squabbles. But when the doorbell rings and my kids exchange worried glances, knowing it’s Riley From Across the Street again, who was just here for six hours yesterday and seems determined to outstay his welcome today—well, that’s when the dilemma kicks in.
I can’t just tell the kid a white lie about having plans when I’m really just planning to relax all day; that’s not a lesson I want to teach. And I can’t bluntly state, “Riley, you’re here all the time, and honestly, you can be a bit annoying,” because I want my children to learn the importance of inclusion. So, I let him in once more, hoping it’s dull enough for him to realize he’s better off at his own home.
Spoiler alert: it never is.
In the meantime, he’s munching through snacks at the same speed as my own kids, and when lunch rolls around, there he is, plate in hand. His parents seem blissfully unaware of his frequent absences, often leaving me to wonder if they even know where he is during the day.
I understand the appeal of having someone else supervise your kids’ summer activities—who wouldn’t want that? This is likely why summer camps are such a hit. But let’s be clear: summer camp staff know kids are coming at specific times, and parents pay for that service.
I’d love a few hours to myself without interruption, but that rarely happens. Why? Because I understand that sending my children to someone else’s house daily—without prior notice or a time limit—is simply rude.
I want to wander around in my comfy clothes, snack supplies to last longer than two days, and work without constant interruptions. I want to zone out occasionally, free from the worry of Riley From Across the Street and his different house rules. But when your kids have friends over and you’re the adult, you must step up and supervise. This can be frustrating when other parents impose this responsibility on you—turning a child away feels like you’re hurting their feelings, and you know it’s not their fault.
So, fellow parents, please be mindful of your kids’ whereabouts this summer. A quick text or call before sending them off would be appreciated. If you want them entertained for a significant part of the day, consider looking into a dedicated service—like daycare. Just to clarify, my house is not that service.
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Summary
Summer is a time for relaxation for many parents, but it often leads to unexpected challenges when other kids frequently show up unannounced. While it’s nice to have playmates for our children, it can also become overwhelming. A gentle reminder for parents: please check in with each other before sending kids over for extended visits.