My Husband’s ‘Acquaintance’ Body Shamed Me on Facebook

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I’ve always been aware of my body, but as I’ve matured, I’ve learned to embrace my shape. Now, I wear outfits that accentuate my curves and, on occasion, show off a little cleavage. Five years ago, I would have never considered it, but now that I’m in my 40s, I’ve adopted a “no worries” attitude.

My husband and I celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an upscale restaurant, and I felt fantastic in a stylish black jumpsuit that highlighted my figure. After snapping a selfie together, I contemplated cropping it but ultimately decided to post it as is, confident in how I looked. The likes and warm wishes from friends flooded in, making me feel great—until I saw a comment that shattered my mood.

A so-called “friend” of my husband from high school, whom I’ve never met, wrote, “Congrats! I just remembered I need to get two jugs of milk at the store.” Really? I was stunned. Who thinks it’s okay to body shame someone, especially the wife of a friend? But, unfortunately, this kind of behavior seems all too common in our society.

At first, I chose to remain silent. But when a friend asked if I knew him, I felt compelled to respond. I replied to his comment, saying, “Comments like this are what’s wrong with our world. A woman tries to embrace body positivity but is shamed instead. It’s people like you who undermine a woman’s self-esteem. However, I’m proud of how I looked last night, and that’s what truly matters.”

His response? Crickets. It’s easy to hide behind a screen, but he had nothing to say when challenged. My husband, who had drafted several replies, ultimately decided to block him, which I appreciated. I didn’t need him to defend me; I was more than capable of standing up for myself.

No one deserves to feel insecure about their body. I’ve struggled with my own insecurities for years, stemming from hurtful comments made during my childhood. Once, during a game of kickball, a boy mocked me, claiming I would get two black eyes if I ran. Those words haunted me for years, proving that words can inflict lasting damage.

We need to educate those who think it’s okay to shame others. Silence only allows the problem to persist. Many brands now celebrate diverse body types, and platforms like Pinterest are banning weight loss ads. This shift is crucial in the fight against body shaming and diet culture.

Be proud of your body, nourish it, and treat it well. Don’t shy away from showing off what you love about yourself or calling out someone who tries to bring you down.

At the end of the day, that individual is no longer part of our lives, and I’ve taken screenshots of his comment to remind him of his poor choice in words. Always remember to take those screenshots; they can be powerful reminders of the negativity we refuse to accept.

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In this personal account, Jenna Miller shares her experience of being body shamed on Facebook by a friend of her husband. Despite her initial shock, she stands up for herself and emphasizes the importance of body positivity, self-acceptance, and the need to challenge harmful comments. She encourages others to love their bodies and not let negativity affect their self-esteem.

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