From the Confessional: I Don’t Want Any More Kids

If you’ve decided that your family is complete and your baby-making days are behind you, you’re definitely not alone. Whether you chose to stop at one child, two to maintain balance, or even six (because let’s face it, that’s a lot), you’ve likely reached a decisive moment in your parenting journey. When you come to this conclusion, it’s as if a light bulb goes off. You may feel nostalgic for those early baby days as your children grow more independent, but your desire for any more kids is firmly shut off—like an oven turned off and unplugged. You are DONE.

If any of this resonates with you, you’ll find comfort in knowing that many parents share similar sentiments. In our confessional, moms express their finality with the whole baby-making process—not their intimate lives, just the addition of more little ones.

Here’s a glimpse into the thoughts of some moms who have reached that conclusion:

“I agreed with my husband that we wouldn’t have more kids. I love my son from my first marriage, but I realized I’m just not cut out for more. No regrets—one and done is fantastic.”
“I see mothers around me with three or more kids, and they seem so happy. Yet, two kids were enough to break me. I feel like a shell of who I was, struggling to get through each day. Why do I feel like a failure?”
“I don’t want more kids. One is enough! Why can’t everyone else just accept that and leave me alone?”
“I’m too selfish to have another child. Our daughter is six months old, and I thought I’d enjoy motherhood more. Looks like we’ll probably just be one and done.”

Some women make the choice, while others find it’s made for them, but they all share one common theme: NO MORE KIDS. Many experience guilt about having an only child, fearing loneliness for their baby. Yet, what they truly need to realize is that having a healthy, happy mom is far better than stretching themselves too thin with more children. There’s absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.

In the confessions, onlookers might notice a trend—many moms express their reluctance due to their partners not contributing equally to parenting. For some, the decision is straightforward due to circumstances, such as lack of support or financial constraints. Others have taken drastic steps, like permanent birth control, to avoid further pregnancies.

For those contemplating the decision of family size, it’s important to remember that each person’s journey is unique. Whether your choice stems from personal readiness or external pressures, it’s valid. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for your choices.

If you’re interested in exploring more about family planning and home insemination options, check out this post from our other blog here, or learn more about the essentials at Make A Mom, an authority on this topic. For those curious about fertility services, Hopkins Medicine offers excellent resources.

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In summary, if you’ve decided that your family is complete, it’s a valid choice. Whether it’s due to personal circumstances or a desire for a balanced life, you’re not alone in your feelings. Embrace your decision, and don’t let anyone else’s opinion sway you.