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As I reflect on my relationship with my teenagers, it’s clear they care for me deeply, but they’ve already expressed a strong desire to spend the 4th of July with their friends instead of me. While I’d love to enjoy a day at the beach or a BBQ on our deck together, I completely understand their choice—after all, I remember how torturous it felt to hang out with my parents during high school.
My daughter is already buzzing with plans for her summer break. She’s excited about getting her nails done, hosting a fancy sweet sixteen party (we’ve already purchased the dress), and visiting a local farm to spend time with animals. I’ve committed to making all of that happen and more.
Then there’s my youngest, who has transformed his room into a mini forest. He’s been busy transplanting trees all over the house, with little seedlings sprouting from acorns he collected in our backyard. We’ve made several trips to the store for seeds, and I’m pretty sure there’s an ant colony living in one of his drawers. As far as I’m concerned, if I don’t see it, it’s not there!
My oldest has been spending countless evenings with his girlfriend. He consumes way more red meat than I think is healthy, but every time he asks for groceries, I happily oblige, and we grill together. Those moments are priceless to me.
Our teens have shown remarkable resilience during the Covid pandemic, which has also helped them appreciate family, friends, and the simple joys of life—things we often took for granted.
This summer, however, I’m determined to make it different. Last year was filled with refusals: “No, we can’t go to the movies.” “No, you can’t hang out with friends.” “No, we can’t visit the water park.” “No, we can’t have a birthday celebration.” “No, we can’t visit our favorite ice cream shop because it’s closed.” Parents were saying “no” out of fear and necessity.
While my teens may not want to spend every single day with me, they do have small requests that matter to them. They want to hang out with friends, and my daughter is thrilled she can invite a few people to her birthday party this year. My son is just glad to be back at work.
I’m sure there will be days when they want more than one ice cream cone from our local shop. They may ask to make s’mores at 11 p.m. and sleep outside on the deck. They’ll want our pet ducks to come indoors. I anticipate requests to go thrifting and visit the dollar store multiple times a week, as those activities are their favorites and something they missed.
And I will always say yes.
For my family, this summer will be the summer of “yes.” We’ll focus on activities that bring us joy and a sense of normalcy. It’s a gift we didn’t have last year.
Just because my kids are older doesn’t mean they’ve forgotten the joy of a spontaneous trip to the movies or a simple ride for a Slurpee. After everything we’ve experienced over the past year and a half, I’m grateful they are here, healthy, and that this year, I can say yes to their wishes.
I also appreciate the perspective this past year has given us. If my kids want to stay up late watching movies and whip up pancakes at midnight, I’m all in. They are truly living in the moment, and it’s heartwarming to see how thankful they are when I say yes. Those moments are invaluable.
Here’s to a summer filled with “yes”!
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