Have you ever noticed how water tastes incredible when you’re parched? Or how a slice of your grandmother’s apple pie can be a delightful experience after a sugar hiatus? There’s a saying, “Good things come to those who wait,” and while that’s not always true, there’s merit in holding out for something until it’s a bit tantalizingly out of reach — then indulging.
This concept of patience and reward extends beyond shopping for your favorite clothes or saving for a new car, as I often remind my teenager. She earns money from her part-time job and wishes for instant gratification, but I explain that the satisfaction of working hard for something is far more fulfilling.
Now, have you considered applying this principle to your sex life? It turns out, edging — bringing yourself close to orgasm and then pausing — can lead to more intense climaxes.
I understand that for many parents, finding even 20 minutes for intimacy is a challenge, especially after a long day. However, if you can carve out some time, it’s certainly worth experimenting with.
How to Practice Edging
So, how do you engage in this edging practice, and what benefits await you? I consulted with Alex Thompson, a Certified Sex Educator and Relationship Expert, who offered some insightful tips on how to begin.
First and foremost, it’s essential to shift your mindset about masturbation. Edging should be the focus, not simply reaching climax. “Don’t just engage in self-pleasure out of boredom or necessity,” Thompson advises.
Another crucial point is to avoid looking at pornography or any erotic images while practicing edging. These distractions can pull your attention away from your own sensations and feelings. Instead, familiarize yourself with the stages of arousal solo before trying it with a partner.
To start, create a comfortable environment. Dim the lights, lock the door, light some candles, or play music that helps you relax and focus. Next, close your eyes and think about someone or something that excites you. “Touch yourself until you begin to feel aroused,” says Thompson.
Pay attention as your excitement builds: your heart rate quickens, muscles tighten, skin flushes, and blood flows to your intimate areas. “You’ll know you’re in the excitement phase,” Thompson explains.
Stay present and aim to hover around 80% of your peak arousal before backing down to 50%. To do this, stop stimulation as you approach climax. “Remove your hands from your intimate areas and slow down,” advises Thompson.
After practicing this a few times, when you finally allow yourself to reach orgasm, take note of how it feels — you may discover it’s more powerful and prolonged than before.
Limit your sessions to 15-20 minutes; they don’t need to be lengthy. If you want to explore edging with a partner, communication is key. “Let your partner know when you’re nearing climax so they can shift to gentler touches elsewhere,” Thompson suggests. For instance, they might caress your thighs or kiss your neck instead of focusing on more intense stimulation. Repeat this cycle until you’re ready to climax again.
The Benefits of Edging
The benefits of edging are numerous. According to Thompson, “It enhances your awareness of your body and what it craves. You’ll become more attuned to your own desires and more confident in what brings you pleasure.” This practice also allows individuals to discover their bodies and pleasure points better.
In summary, if you’re willing to take a few moments for yourself, edging could lead to more pleasurable and longer-lasting orgasms. For a little “me time,” I wouldn’t hesitate to sneak away for a few minutes each week to enhance my intimate experiences.
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