I never truly examined my vulva until I had specific reasons to, like when I was trying to conceive or suspected a yeast infection. It’s not something I typically devote time to — at least not in broad daylight.
Too much information? I identify as a lesbian and have seen enough vulvas to understand that each one is distinct. I’ve come to appreciate their diversity and value my own in ways I had never anticipated. We should all embrace our unique anatomy — after all, we only have one, so why not cherish it?
Reaching this point of appreciation has taken time. I’ve grown to understand my vulva better now than I did in my twenties, and I have a deeper respect for it as well.
Let’s Discuss Our Vulvas
It’s essential to get to know them, show them some love, and be vigilant about any health issues that might come up during our journeys as proud vulva owners.
First, let’s clarify some terminology. Many individuals mistakenly use the term “vagina” to refer to their vulva. However, as writer Lisa Thompson explains, “A vulva refers to the external parts of the female anatomy, including the mons pubis, labia (both inner and outer), clitoris, and more.”
Have you checked out your vulva lately? If not, you should. Here’s why. I recently faced a cancer scare — not the common types like breast or ovarian cancer, but vulvar cancer. I’ll spare you the details, but after undergoing a painful biopsy, I emerged cancer-free and with a newfound appreciation for my body and vulva.
Regularly examining your vulva could be life-saving. When you do, you’ll come to realize that it is uniquely yours and deserves the same care and love as the rest of your body. If I hadn’t taken the time to look, I wouldn’t have known to check for changes. Just like other body parts, our vulvas undergo changes throughout our lives. I highly recommend using a mirror to spend some time (preferably in good light) getting to know your vulva.
Inspiration to Explore
For some inspiration, check out the episode “The Pleasure Is Ours” from “In The Goop Lab” with Gwyneth Paltrow. In this episode, women, guided by sex educator Betty Dodson, are encouraged to explore their vulvas and connect with their own bodies. One memorable segment features women sitting together, examining each other’s vulvas, while another shows women using mirrors to explore their own anatomy. If you’re skeptical, give it a watch on Netflix — it’s eye-opening and somewhat sad to see how many women feel disconnected from their own bodies.
What I learned from this show is that vulvas come in all shapes and sizes. It’s crucial to appreciate your own anatomy, as positive genital self-image can lead to greater sexual self-esteem. Remember, how your vulva looks doesn’t define your worth. It is perfect just the way it is.
Familiarize yourself with your vulva well enough to notice any changes. This knowledge could potentially save your life.
Further Resources
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