After four decades, I’ve finally reached a point where I no longer care about others’ opinions. Throughout my life, I’ve been labeled variously—beautiful, ugly, fat, and skinny. I’ve faced criticism for my voice and the things I say. People have thrown every conceivable insult my way, but I refuse to let their judgments affect me any longer.
In my career, I’ve been advised by male colleagues that losing a few pounds would help me climb the ladder. This constant scrutiny led me to obsess over my appearance, trying to conceal every lump and bump on my body. I let my worries about how I looked hold me back from pursuing opportunities and enjoying activities. But I’ve had enough.
I’ve spent years focusing on my perceived flaws, but now, I embrace who I am, inside and out. Yes, I have imperfections—bumps and cellulite—but those are part of my humanity. Each scar tells a story, and the changes in my body after having children are now sources of pride. That post-pregnancy jiggle? It’s a testament to the life I’ve nurtured. I’ve learned to accept and even cherish what makes me unique. I am done worrying about what others think.
Now, as I navigate my 40s, my motivation for exercising has shifted; I cycle and lift weights because it makes me feel great, not to fit a certain mold. I choose outfits based on how they make me feel, rather than worrying about societal expectations. And while I wear makeup for work, my most beautiful moments are when I’m relaxed at home in sweats, makeup-free, surrounded by family.
To everyone reading, the next time you find yourself fretting about others’ opinions, take a moment to look in the mirror. It’s time to prioritize your own desires. Those imperfections I once criticized are now my favorite aspects of myself.
I am done. I am done fixating on superficial concerns. When I look at my reflection, I see a strong woman ready to shield herself from negativity, all because I decided to say, “I am done.”
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