Once upon a time, if you were a Catholic who went through a divorce, your church might have told you that despite God’s love for everyone, your divorce was a sin that would lead you straight to hell. They could even excommunicate you. My grandmother faced this harsh reality after leaving her dangerously abusive husband to protect herself and her three children. The church leader who delivered this news likely believed he was conveying God’s Truth with sincerity. He might have felt regret for breaking her heart, but the impact was devastating; she never returned to church again.
Recently, I stumbled upon a post from a well-known Christian mom blogger who stated that if any of her children came out as LGBTQ+, she would love them but still feel it was her duty to share the “truth.” While she didn’t define what “the truth” entailed, it was easy to guess she meant that she would inform her child that being gay is a sin, implying that acting on those feelings would lead to eternal damnation.
This type of bigotry—the “I care for you, but you’re doomed” nonsense—is among the most damaging forms of discrimination. Personally, I’d prefer outright hatred. Just come out and say you find same-sex relationships distasteful and wish we didn’t exist. At least that would be honest. There’s clarity in that message, with no contradictions for us to untangle or rationalize.
When you tell me you care but also insist that my love is sinful, I can’t help but question the sincerity behind your kindness. Are you genuinely trying to be a good person, or are you merely accumulating points for your heavenly reward? “You’re going to hell, but I’m safe because I love you, even if you are a sinner.” If your sole intention is to impress God by pointing out others’ transgressions, then your heart is far from pure.
I also question your understanding of morality. Consider this: you believe that because of who I love, I am destined to suffer in hell for eternity. Yes, eternally engulfed in flames for loving someone of the same sex. You think this is a loving sentiment?
Such beliefs reflect a disturbing level of narcissism. Christianity teaches that God is an enigma, yet you’re expected to follow a doctrine full of contradictions and cruelty. It’s illogical to hold onto a belief system that claims to grant us the intelligence to question and analyze yet demands blind adherence to its outdated rules.
The Bible contains numerous directives that people ignore every day. Many Christians have conveniently disregarded the pro-slavery passages, just as they have adapted their views on divorce. They selectively uphold the parts that align with their beliefs while discarding others. This selective adherence is a conscious choice to maintain certain prejudices.
Religion is not a buffet, and your insistence on telling a hypothetical LGBTQ+ child the “truth” is not an expression of love but rather a display of arrogance and hypocrisy. My love is just as valid and deserving of respect as your beliefs. You don’t get to dictate how God perceives love.
As vast and marvelous as the universe is, you choose to hang eternity on a trivial aspect of humanity. You have convinced yourself that your conditional love aligns with God’s will, misunderstanding what truly matters in the eyes of divinity. Your hubris is astounding.
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Summary
The article critiques the harmful notion of loving someone while condemning their identity, particularly in the context of LGBTQ+ relationships. It discusses the hypocrisy and arrogance of selectively adhering to religious texts and highlights the pain caused by such beliefs. The author argues for the validity of love, irrespective of sexual orientation, and emphasizes the need for honesty in expressing acceptance.
Keyphrase: “conditional love in religion”
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