The holiday season can be a challenging time for many, especially when faced with the complexities of family dynamics and health concerns during a pandemic. Are you feeling pressured about attending family gatherings, particularly as COVID-19 cases continue to rise? You’re not alone.
Dear Advice Column,
I’m feeling overwhelmed by the holiday plans my family is pushing. My mom calls daily asking if we will join for Thanksgiving, and my kids are anxious about missing time with their cousins. I long for my grandmother’s sweet potato casserole and pumpkin pie, but the COVID numbers in my area are alarming. If I suggest canceling our holiday meetups or choose not to attend, am I letting my family down?
Let’s be honest: there are no ideal choices right now. What was once a straightforward decision—like attending school or holiday dinners—has become fraught with uncertainty. Every option feels risky and disheartening, a reality we’re all grappling with in the face of an ongoing pandemic.
Instead of seeking a perfect solution, it may be more fruitful to identify the least risky alternative. For many, this means forgoing traditional holiday gatherings with family members, especially those who are more vulnerable.
The statistics are stark: COVID-19 cases are skyrocketing, surpassing 100,000 daily in many areas. Just weeks ago, experts like Dr. Samuel Lee warned against small group gatherings, particularly when vulnerable individuals are involved. “If you have high-risk family members, it might be wise to avoid large dinners or gatherings that could increase infection risk,” he noted in a recent interview.
Given that older adults and those with underlying health issues are at heightened risk, staying away might be the most caring choice. It’s essential to pause and consider if bringing everyone together is safe, especially when the health status of your family members is uncertain.
That said, there are safer ways to celebrate. If outdoor gatherings with proper distancing and masks are feasible, they can reduce risk. However, as the weather turns cold, this may not be practical. In such cases, virtual celebrations can be a great alternative.
You can get creative with online gatherings—try a virtual murder mystery or an interactive talent show featuring the kids and their cousins. While it may not be ideal, the health and safety of your loved ones are worth the wait.
It’s crucial to have open conversations with your family about these feelings. Acknowledging the sadness of the situation can foster connection, allowing everyone to share in the disappointment. Remind each other that these virtual or socially distanced gatherings won’t last forever; eventually, it will be safe to reunite in person, and it’s better to wait until everyone can join in good health.