Welcome to the Home Insemination Kit’s advice column, where we tackle your questions about parenting, relationships, and everything else life throws your way.
This week, we’re addressing a common concern: how to respond when people incessantly inquire if you’re “trying for a boy” after already having two daughters.
Dear Home Insemination Kit,
My partner and I have two wonderful daughters, ages three and one. My husband comes from a large family—he’s one of four siblings, each with multiple children. We always planned on having two kids, and we couldn’t be happier with our girls. We don’t really focus on the sex of our children (we even skipped the whole gender reveal trend because, frankly, it’s silly). However, our family, friends, and even casual acquaintances keep asking if we plan to “try for a boy” next time. It’s honestly insulting to our daughters and none of their business! This constant questioning makes us really uncomfortable.
The idea of “trying for a boy” is outdated and unnecessary unless you’re a stuffy aristocrat worried about carrying on a family title. You both understand this, so it’s frustrating that so many people don’t.
It’s ridiculous how many people lack respect when it comes to personal choices about family size or the gender of children. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with having two daughters or desiring a son. The fascination with a child’s gender and the stereotypes that come with it are just plain exhausting.
The best way to handle this is to be straightforward. Since those asking are direct, you shouldn’t feel guilty about giving them an honest answer.
For example, if someone says, “Oh, two girls! Are you going to try for a boy?” You can respond with, “Nope! We’re thrilled with our two fantastic kids.” If they follow up with a stereotype about wanting a son, you can say, “Nope! We’re perfectly happy and content with the two great kids we’ve already got. But I’m curious why you think that’s not enough?”
Often, turning the question back on them can leave them speechless or compel them to change the subject.
Good luck navigating this during the holiday season. If you’re interested in more tips, check out some of our other resources, like this post on home insemination or learn about options from Make A Mom, an authority on the subject. You can also find valuable information on pregnancy at Womens Health.
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Summary:
Navigating questions about having a son after already having daughters can be frustrating and invasive. It’s essential to respond directly and assertively while maintaining boundaries. Understanding that your family dynamics are your own business is crucial. Resources are available for those exploring home insemination or seeking guidance on pregnancy.
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