I spent a significant portion of my life trying to fit into the mold of a “good fatty.” It wasn’t a deliberate choice, nor did I even have a catchy name for it. I simply understood that being fat meant society would likely overlook my worth compared to those who are thin or average-sized. The idea of challenging this flawed perception didn’t cross my mind for years. Instead, I focused on ways to justify my body and sought out traits that would make me likable despite my weight. I learned that if I could be surprising, intelligent, or charming, perhaps people would look past my larger body and see my value.
Recently, I came across the term “good fatty,” thanks to the insightful work of fat activist and artist Taylor Gray. Through a compelling cartoon series, Gray delves into society’s perceptions of fatness and highlights twelve archetypes that illustrate how many fat individuals navigate the quest for acceptance. Here are five of those archetypes that often perpetuate problematic notions about fat bodies:
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The Work-In-Progress
This archetype is the quintessential “good fatty.” Those embodying this role often escape judgment because they are seen as actively losing weight or at least trying to. They acknowledge the societal value placed on thinness, even if they don’t fit the mold. I’ve certainly fallen into this trap myself. Despite my efforts toward body positivity, the urge to prove my worth based on weight is still an ongoing struggle. -
The Nurturer
This type of good fatty finds value through their maternal instincts. Whether an actual parent or the unofficial caregiver of the group, they often adopt a nurturing role that is seen as non-threatening. In high school, I found myself cast in this role as well, and it continues to follow me. Society tends to frown upon fat individuals expressing their sexuality, making those who downplay it seem more acceptable. Nurturers often sidestep judgment by embracing a gentle, maternal persona. -
The Health Star/Fitness Buff
These individuals either boast impeccable health (Health Star) or possess remarkable physical abilities (Fitness Buff). They defy expectations by demonstrating that fat bodies can be agile and capable, often gaining acceptance where others do not. It’s a harsh reality that respect is often contingent upon health status, particularly for those of us who exist in larger bodies. -
The Fashionable Fat
Social media is filled with Fashionable Fat individuals, often those who are on the smaller side of plus-size or possess a body type that society deems acceptable. They showcase trendy outfits and prove that fat women can be fashionable, but this reinforces the idea that only certain types of fat bodies are worthy of respect. The belief that being more similar to thin bodies, except for size, grants value is a problematic perspective. -
The Big Guy
No discussion of fat archetypes would be complete without mentioning the “Big Guy.” He often enjoys societal privileges that fat women do not, such as being viewed as strong and protective. While he may embrace his size, he benefits from a culture that grants him a “free pass” for being fat, something that is rarely afforded to women. It’s a glaring discrepancy that only highlights the biases present in our society.
The complexities of these identities are vast and nuanced. There are numerous other roles that fat individuals may feel compelled to adopt, like the hapless fatty or the celebrity fat. Ultimately, it’s essential to recognize that respect should not be contingent on conforming to these archetypes. Simply existing in a body—regardless of size—should be enough.
Navigating life in a larger body is filled with judgment and assumptions, and it’s okay to occasionally play the role of a “good fatty” for self-protection. If you’re in a fat body seeking acceptance in this often cruel world, remember: you are inherently good, just as you are. It’s perfectly acceptable to take a break from the pressure to prove your worth.
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Summary:
This article explores five problematic archetypes of the “good fatty” in a fat-phobic society, including the Work-In-Progress, Nurturer, Health Star/Fitness Buff, Fashionable Fat, and Big Guy. Each archetype reflects societal biases that pressure fat individuals to justify their existence. Ultimately, the article emphasizes that every person, regardless of size, deserves respect and acceptance.
Keyphrase: Good Fatty Archetypes
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