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- Real Talk: A Q&A with a Homeschooling Parent
by Laura Henderson
May 30, 2017
I have chosen to homeschool my three children. This decision stemmed from my own experiences as a student—facing boredom and bullying—and my brief stint as a summer educator. During that time, I noticed that our daily routine mirrored the traditional school day, and in a moment of frustration, I counted all the time spent on preparation, transitions, and settling down. To my shock, I realized that only two hours of my six-hour day were spent on actual teaching. I refused to put my kids through that.
However, when I share that I’m a homeschooling parent, I often encounter unsolicited opinions. Everyone seems to have something to say about my children’s education, and somehow, their views always take precedence over mine.
What grade are your kids in?
I don’t track grades.
What do you mean you don’t track grades? How can you not know what grade they’re in?
Well, it’s simple. You focus on what your 7-year-old can accomplish. If he can read “The BFG” and explore historical novels, that’s what matters. He understands basic addition but is still mastering subtraction. He can count coins, tell time, and even shares insights about historical events. So, in that context, I know exactly what he’s learning, even if it doesn’t fit neatly into a grade level.
Aren’t you concerned about socialization?
Absolutely. Schools are often seen as socialization hubs, but they consist of children grouped strictly by age, which doesn’t reflect real life. My children interact with peers of varying ages—whether it’s through skating lessons, co-op classes, or playdates. Yes, some friends may live further away than I’d prefer, but when they do meet up, it’s pure joy. They learn to socialize not just with peers but also with younger and older friends. That’s genuine socialization, not just a room full of kids discussing the latest fads.
Is your decision rooted in religion?
For some, it certainly is. I find it unfortunate when children are kept home to avoid learning about evolution or are only taught biblical principles. For our family, while we incorporate faith into our homeschooling, it isn’t the primary reason we’ve chosen this path. We appreciate the flexibility it provides, and secular homeschooling is a valid choice that many families embrace.
Are you aware of your privilege?
Yes, I recognize that I’m in a fortunate position to homeschool my kids. But that doesn’t mean I have to conform to traditional school standards.
Don’t you think you’re undermining public education by opting out?
These are my children we’re discussing. I refuse to sacrifice their education for the sake of some idealistic agenda. I actively advocate for public education reform, attend rallies, and communicate with representatives about necessary changes. But my priority is my children’s education. If you feel strongly, why not get involved in the school board?
We also contribute our share of taxes that support public education, so let’s do the math.
Homeschoolers must be strange.
That’s not a question, but sure! My 7-year-old knows all the lyrics to “Hamilton” and loves to reenact Revolutionary War battles with his action figures. Meanwhile, my 5-year-old is fascinated with dinosaurs and historical trivia. They enjoy popular shows like NEXO Knights and Scooby-Doo, even if they haven’t been introduced to fidget spinners or certain trending toys. They embrace their interests without worrying about fitting in, and that’s what matters most.
How can you believe you’re qualified to teach?
I hold a near-doctorate in composition and rhetoric, which is fundamentally about teaching. I have a solid understanding of educational philosophies, and if that doesn’t impress you, there are countless resources available for those looking to homeschool without extensive prior knowledge.
What does a typical day look like?
We engage in educational activities, like reading parts of “The Aeneid” for history, and both kids tackle math. After about two and a half hours, we break for lunch and some playtime. That’s why you might see me out with my kids in the afternoon, often at parks or engaging in creative arts. School doesn’t consume the entire day, leaving us plenty of time for exploration, outdoor activities, and personal creativity—all essential for their development.
We live life fully, and we love it.
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In summary, homeschooling offers a unique opportunity to tailor education to my children’s needs and interests while fostering social skills and creativity. It’s not just about academics; it’s about nurturing a well-rounded, happy family life.