Let’s be real for a moment. You’re scrolling through your social media feed or sifting through an article online, and something strikes a nerve. You completely disagree with the perspective presented. So much so that you feel the need to respond. You type and erase, type and erase, until it seems just right. Then, in a last-ditch effort to avoid coming off as a total jerk, you append your comment with, “Just saying.”
Yikes.
Allow me to clarify: adding “just saying” to your comment makes you come across as condescending, immature, and rude. It diminishes the validity of everything you just wrote. You could present the most insightful, well-researched argument ever, but once you tag “just saying” at the end, the only takeaway will be how unpleasant your tone was.
Here’s the real issue with “just saying.” You’re not merely stating a fact. What you’re really doing is trying to deflect criticism. Deep down, you know your words might be a bit harsh or controversial. You’re aware that your opinion could spark backlash and yet, you proceed anyway. You might care just enough about others’ reactions to add “just saying” to soften the blow, but the underlying message is clear: you believe you’re right, and anyone who disagrees is just wrong.
This trend is running rampant, and it’s not flattering—at all. So how can we kick this habit of using “just saying”? Here are a few strategies:
- Be Kind.
You know when you’re being hurtful versus when you’re being constructive. Opt for kindness. Nobody enjoys being around mean-spirited individuals. Those who are consistently negative often find themselves alone in their later years because they’ve pushed others away. If you refrain from being harsh in your comments, there won’t be any need to add “just saying.” - Pause Before You Post.
Seriously, take a moment to reflect. Is it necessary to critique every single point the other person made? Can you focus your thoughts on one key issue instead? Do you need to delve into their personal life, or can you keep your comments centered on the content? Often, we make assumptions about others based on limited information. Stick to the facts. - Sometimes, Silence Is Golden.
It might sound unbelievable, but in today’s digital age, it’s entirely possible to read something you disagree with and simply move on. Maybe take some time to clean your house, go for a jog, or call a friend to vent instead of broadcasting your opinions online. You may feel the urge to share, but sometimes it’s best just to walk away.
Can we agree to retire the phrase “just saying”? Let’s make it as outdated as floppy disks or VHS tapes. Next time you feel the need to add that phrase to your comment, consider re-evaluating your thoughts. If you’re just saying something, perhaps it’s best to take a hike instead.
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In summary, let’s strive for more respectful discourse and think twice before we hit “send” on that comment.