Hey everyone, can we please put an end to the faux concern for others’ health? I’m not talking about genuine care; we all need a support system, people who love us enough to speak the truth, even when it’s tough. That’s what community is about—being fully known and loved.
What I’m really tired of is unsolicited commentary on my body and health from strangers. As someone who identifies as plus-sized, I often bear the brunt of this, but let’s be clear: this behavior isn’t just limited to those of us in larger bodies. People of all sizes can face this kind of unwarranted scrutiny. No one should feel obligated to listen to a random person’s take on their health based solely on a quick glance.
For me, it usually revolves around my weight. My entire life has been a series of judgments about my body—how I “got here” and how I can “fix” it, as if I’m just a problem to solve rather than a human with the right to exist as I am. It’s draining.
In a society that still labels fatness as “unacceptable,” inappropriate comments are rampant, both online and in real life. Outright cruelty is infuriating, but what really gets to me is the insidious type of body shaming disguised as “concern for my health.”
You know the type—someone makes a wildly inappropriate comment but wraps it in compliments. They start by saying how beautiful or intelligent I am, only to then dive into their worries about my health, all while insisting their concern is purely about my well-being. Really? A complete stranger thinks they’re offering me insights I don’t already know because they care about my health? Spare me.
I’d respect it more if they just said, “I don’t like what I see, and I’m uncomfortable with my own biases.” At least that would be honest. You don’t even know me! So why would you suddenly care about my health? You’re just trying to mask your judgment with an insincere veneer of caring. You think that by pretending your criticism comes from a place of concern, you’ll be seen as kind—but it’s just a façade.
Let’s get real: you don’t know anything about my health just by looking at me. You have no idea what my weight was six months ago or if I’m actively working on any medical conditions with my doctor. You can’t see how active I am or what my diet looks like. You only see what you want to see—your biases in action.
Let’s be clear: your unsolicited opinions about my body or health are never appropriate. It’s laughable to pretend your judgment is rooted in concern for my health. If you think you can just slip in your comments under the guise of concern, think again. Next time you feel compelled to share your unsolicited advice, pause and ask yourself, “Is this any of my business?” The answer is almost certainly “no.”
Instead of critiquing others, why not try finding common ground? Respect the uniqueness of each individual? Let people live their lives without your judgment? There are countless ways to inhabit a body, and you weren’t put on this earth to tell others they’re doing it wrong.
Mind your own business.
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Summary
The article emphasizes the exhaustion of dealing with unsolicited health concerns from strangers, particularly for those in larger bodies. It calls for a stop to faux health concerns and encourages respect for individual experiences and bodies.
Keyphrase: “health trolls”
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