The other evening, as I tackled the dishes, my partner, Sarah, entered the kitchen clutching her planner and a few papers. “Did you realize the kids have two days off next month for fall break and a teacher in-service?” she asked.
“What? Didn’t we just start school? Why do they need a break so soon?” I replied, perplexed.
She shrugged and waved the school calendar in my direction. “Not sure, but we need to figure out what to do when they’re out of school.”
With a sigh, I finished washing the dishes and pulled up my calendar. Sarah opened her planner, and we began the tedious task of determining who could take time off work to stay home with our three little ones, who are too young to be left alone. They can keep themselves entertained (though that’s debatable), but they’re not quite self-sufficient yet and definitely lack the judgment to keep themselves safe.
Throughout the school year, we face an array of unexpected days off—random Tuesdays, a strange half-day in March, and weeklong breaks in winter and spring. Not to mention the inevitable sick days or lice outbreaks that could pop up at any moment.
After selecting several days to take off ourselves, we still found ourselves short for about eight days that required coverage. Our options boiled down to working from home, which usually means getting very little done because, you know, kids, or enrolling them in a school-offered day camp. The catch? If I can’t afford to take time off, I certainly can’t afford to pay for childcare. None of our choices involve support from family; we’re on our own, and it’s frustrating.
“I wonder what Jake and Lily are doing for winter break? Maybe we can take their kids for a day or two, and they can take ours,” Sarah suggested. I watched her text her friends, only to see her slump in defeat moments later after reading Jake’s reply: Grandma camp!
“Must be nice,” I muttered, filled with envy. Unlike Jake and Lily, my kids don’t have grandparents nearby. Sarah and I are without family support, and it’s a heavy burden.
I’ll admit, I feel a twinge of bitterness when I hear friends talk about how their parents are stepping in to help out. “We’re all in this together,” they say, but it seems like their parents are the ones swooping in to save the day while mine are miles away, absent and uninvolved.
Sure, my friends deserve their date nights and time off, and I’m genuinely happy for them. But I can’t help but feel a pang of jealousy when I hear them discuss how their relatives are coming to stay with them during school breaks. It’s tough watching my kids miss out on playdates because their friends are at Grandma’s house. I mean, can’t Grandma keep them for the weekends too, so my kids don’t need me to constantly referee their squabbles?
Sarah and I often feel isolated, as though we’re the only ones without a support system. We smile through the discomfort when friends plan vacations around school breaks. We bite our tongues when we hear about Aunt Lisa coming to the rescue for their family. We feign excitement when friends mention their kids are having sleepovers at Grandma’s.
And behind the scenes, we grumble about how easy it must be to have that kind of support. It’s hard not to feel overwhelmed when the pressure of parenting young children feels like it’s suffocating us.
What I truly miss is not just the practical help with the kids, but the emotional support that comes with having family around. I crave the comfort of knowing that someone is there to lighten my load, offering care when it feels too heavy to bear. I want to feel seen, to have someone recognize the effort I put in every day and to have a moment to breathe without worrying about juggling everything on my own.
Being a parent can feel impossible at times, and I can’t help but envy those who can reach out to their parents for help, just like our kids lean on us for support.
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Summary:
Navigating parenthood without nearby family support can be overwhelming for working parents. The burden of managing school breaks, sick days, and childcare often falls solely on parents, leading to feelings of frustration and isolation. While friends may have family to lean on, those without such support crave not only help with childcare but also emotional relief from the pressures of parenting.
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