Hey there, my lifelong confidante and best friend,
Lately, I’ve been the one to bail on our plans way too often. I know it’s become a pattern. Whenever I call to vent about my day, you listen, even when you’re juggling your own challenges. During the pivotal moments of my life, it’s hard to think of anyone else who has stood by me as steadfastly as you have.
Honestly, you’re a better friend to me right now.
Even when I cancel, you continue to reach out. You remember our last conversation where I ranted about everything that was bothering me, yet you still prioritize checking in. You’ve respected my need for space when I needed it, even when you wanted to be there for me. You commiserate with me about my frustrations and aren’t afraid to call me out when I’m being unreasonable.
Through it all, I can’t shake the feeling that I fall short in our friendship.
I often find myself reflecting on how I missed your daughter’s birthday party, and it truly breaks my heart that I had to skip such a significant celebration for someone I cherish deeply. You’ve never missed a moment that mattered, while I’ve let you down.
But you understand the chaos of life—kids getting sick, family demands, and my less-than-reliable nature when it comes to playdates (I’m pretty sure one of my kiddos is throwing up right now). I’m grateful you don’t add guilt to the mix on top of everything else.
You get me, even when I struggle to make sense of myself.
Our lives have become a whirlwind as we navigate the years of raising our kids. Spontaneous hangouts are a rarity now. We’re often drowned out by the sound of little ones demanding our attention, and our calls have turned into a chorus of “GIVE ME A MINUTE!” Despite that, we can seamlessly pick up our conversations where we left off.
I cherish these new chapters in our friendship.
Our schedules are a far cry from the carefree days we once enjoyed. We have new responsibilities, relationships, dreams, ambitions, failures, and victories to juggle. And yet, I still feel like I haven’t been the friend you deserve.
Gone are the days of spontaneous hair dye sessions and late-night chats unless our world feels like it’s crumbling. No more waiting eagerly for pizza delivery while indulging in brownie batter. I miss the foundation our friendship was built on, but I find solace in knowing that these busy times won’t define us. They’re simply seasons—brief interruptions in our devotion to one another while we focus on our families.
I want to thank you for loving me enough to not let chaos get in the way of what we have. You’ve always seen me as I was at 12 years old, and you understand that I’m dealing with my own challenges. This doesn’t diminish how much I care for you; it just means I’m managing my own chaos.
Our friendship has always picked up right where it left off, usually over pizza, juicy gossip, and plenty of wine. As we navigate our separate paths, I’d be lying if I said you weren’t better at meeting me halfway.
If you ever find yourself feeling lost, just call me twice if I don’t answer the first time. Vent to me freely, cancel plans if you need to, and know that I will love you from a distance if that’s what it takes.
I’m here for you, always.
With love,
Your Wine-Sipping, Venting Partner and Forever BFF