When I’m out with my son, there’s often a moment when he needs to use the restroom—and sometimes, I do too. When he was younger, no one batted an eye as I brought him into the women’s restroom. In fact, it was quite common to see little boys with their mothers in there. I never minded sharing a restroom with them; my focus was on my own needs, rather than anyone else’s.
However, my son is no longer that little boy in a one-piece outfit. He’s now a 5-foot-4 lanky teenager, with a deepening voice and hairy legs. While part of me wishes he would remain that energetic toddler stomping around in his chunky shoes, the reality is that he is growing up fast.
So why do I still bring him with me to the women’s bathroom? Because I’m not comfortable sending him into public restrooms alone. I’ve even started planning my errands around places that have single-stall restrooms, where I know he can go in safely. Plus, I need to go too. The thought of us being in separate restrooms, with the chance of him finishing first and being left alone, is not something I want to risk.
Let’s face it—women’s restrooms often have longer lines, and it’s usually because we’re juggling children while trying to use the facilities. So, in many public spaces, my son will continue to accompany me into the women’s room. And to everyone else in the restroom, you have two options: either accept it, or advocate for more family-friendly, gender-neutral restrooms. After all, my son’s safety and comfort are just as important as anyone else’s.
To provide some context, my son has autism and intellectual disabilities, making it crucial for me to be there to ensure his safety. I understand that it can be awkward for him, especially at 13, and I’ve noticed the curious glances from other women when he walks in behind me. But trust me, I’m teaching him to be respectful, including putting the seat down after use.
Honestly, I’ve grown indifferent to any side-eye we might receive in the restroom. If you find it bothersome, I suggest you take a picture—it’ll last longer. What other option do you propose? Should I avoid leaving the house altogether or risk his safety? I refuse to compromise our well-being for anyone’s discomfort.
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In summary, while my teenage son may not love tagging along with me to the women’s restroom, it’s a necessity for both of our comfort and safety. Until there are more accessible options for families, this is how it will be.
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