Let me begin by saying that when I set out to write this piece, I imagined myself peacefully seated at my table, a warm cup of coffee in hand, enjoying the tranquility of my home. But that’s far from how things actually unfolded. That’s the kind of curated scene you might see on Instagram, not what life really looks like. In reality, I kicked off this post at 11 a.m. while trying to call a friend for advice on how to start. Soon after, I juggled calls about my business and listened to friends who were dealing with tough times (you know, the struggles we don’t often share on social media). Then I found myself changing sheets on three different beds. Yep, it’s a mess.
And by the way, my coffee has now turned cold, and it’s already 1:30 p.m.
Now, I’m not referring to a home that simply needs vacuuming or dusting—though that can be true, as my living space illustrates. I mean messy in the rawest sense. It feels chaotic, like something that should be tidied up and hidden from view. Life isn’t always pristine, and it rarely fits neatly into that beautiful wicker basket we thought would look great on our laundry shelf. It’s just life. It seldom adheres to our expectations. Sometimes, we have to struggle through chaos just to get through the day or even the moment. And that’s perfectly fine because it’s often in those trenches that we discover our greatest blessings. If we can shift our perspective and embrace the mess, we can find the good hidden within.
The Lessons Learned
The biggest lesson I’ve gleaned from motherhood is straightforward: my kids aren’t always going to behave the way I want.
The most significant takeaway from my marriage: it’s not solely about me.
And the overarching lesson of life: we all stumble, but we have the capacity to mend and begin anew.
With challenges often come rewards.
This journey is a learning experience. We are all navigating similar struggles, yet it can feel isolating when we’re bombarded with perfect images and filtered posts. Have you ever tried to capture the ideal selfie? It’s just as challenging as getting every child to smile simultaneously in a family photo while making sure the dog is looking at the camera too. So if we have to take 20 selfies or edit our family pictures, why do we expect life to be flawless in the moment we live it?
During the winter, I wrote about a significant snowstorm in my area that caused widespread shutdowns, prompting many to rush to the store for supplies. Everyone was so focused on potential disasters that they overlooked the opportunity for joy that was right in front of them. In that post, I encouraged everyone to pause and appreciate the moment. But what if we took it a step further and reveled in the lessons or blessings that emerged from those experiences? What if we dared to embrace the mess?
What if we stood in the soft snow and inhaled its fresh scent? We could express gratitude for the serenity it brought. Or we could close the doors and savor the coziness of our homes and families during those unexpected days of rest.
Let’s go further: what if we celebrated those other 19 selfies that didn’t turn out just right? What if we shared those moments and let people see our authentic lives, unfiltered and raw? It’s a daunting thought, but we all experience it. Why are we so afraid to share it?
I may not have a college degree in life advice, nor do I have formal training in women’s issues, marriage, or child-rearing. What I do have is the ability to listen. As a woman in a predominantly female industry, I engage with women daily. I hear them discuss their daily lives, their children, their marriages, careers, and everything in between. I witness both their small victories and their earth-shattering challenges.
But I also see these women rise again. They return, telling me how they’re moving forward. Even though it’s messy and often exhausting, they’re striving toward the positive. The moment they face their mess and acknowledge it is when they begin to pick up the pieces, paving the way for the next chapter in their lives. Don’t shy away from your chaos. Use it as fuel for change.
Embrace the Mess
Embrace it. You can’t have a tidy home without first experiencing some mess. If your house remains cluttered for a while while you focus on other aspects of life, that’s completely acceptable. That’s the reality we seldom share. Ironically, we all live it but often overlook it because we’re too busy comparing our lives to those polished images we see online. I can assure you, everyone has their own outtakes. You just don’t always see them.
We all have our mess, and it fluctuates daily. Life is unfiltered and far from perfect. But within that imperfection lies our unique version of “perfect.” So live it! Embrace even the messy parts. It’s not as daunting as it seems; it’s all about how we choose to perceive it.
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In summary, life is messy and imperfect, but within that chaos lies our potential for happiness and growth. Embrace the journey, mess and all!
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