Parenting can be a wild ride, especially in a household dominated by boys. As a mother to two sons and a husband, I often find myself surrounded by male energy—and discussions that revolve around their bodies, particularly their penises. It’s a constant theme in our home, with my children using an endless array of nicknames, from “winky” to “big papi.”
Even though my boys tend to be polite and kind, the conversation about their anatomy is ever-present. It’s not unusual for me to hear phrases like, “Mom! He showed me his junk!” or “Don’t be a wiener!” This playful banter, while amusing, often crosses into territory that makes me feel uncomfortable.
As they grow older, the frequency and nature of these discussions change. My eldest, now 12 and armed with knowledge from sex education, often forgets that there’s a limit to how much locker room talk is appropriate, especially in front of me. I’ve found myself saying, “I can’t engage with you while your hand is down your pants,” more times than I care to count.
One weekend, after repeatedly asking them to keep their hands out of their pants, I realized that the laughter and joking had become more than just innocent fun. It was a reminder that as they mature, the conversations surrounding their bodies need to evolve too. After attending a rather risqué fundraiser—an outing that showcased a male dance troupe—I had a moment of clarity. I decided to ask other moms if their sons exhibited similar behaviors. To my relief, they did. The consensus was clear: we needed to address this head-on.
I initiated an open discussion with my children about my discomfort with their crude humor. For a short while, the antics lessened, but it became evident that humor surrounding anatomy is hard to resist, especially when it elicits laughter. To turn the tide, I decided to flip the script. When they made crude jokes, I responded in kind—albeit with a twist. When one of them gleefully exclaimed, “My peepee feels squishy!” I replied, “So does my vagina.” The reaction was priceless.
The shocked silence spoke volumes. It highlighted the double standard that exists around discussing male and female anatomy. My willingness to speak openly about women’s bodies made a significant impact, and soon, the frequency of their crude references diminished.
As my sons navigate this stage of life, I realize the importance of teaching them how their words and actions can affect others. In today’s world, where respect and understanding are paramount, it’s crucial that they learn to balance their fun with sensitivity toward women. The #metoo movement has reinforced this lesson, making it clear that many men have yet to grasp the importance of respecting women’s feelings.
In summary, fostering open communication about body awareness and respect in my household is an ongoing journey. With time and patience, I believe my boys will learn to appreciate the balance between humor and respect.
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