Nine years ago, my life took a turn for the better when I met a spirited cocker spaniel puppy. I was just 20 and still grappling with the loss of my father when I stumbled upon a little cocker spaniel with a face full of freckles. The owner of the wine store where I found her also bred dogs, and in that moment, I knew I had to have her. I named her Lily after a beloved character from a book series.
Lily became my anchor, giving me a purpose and a reason to embrace life again. Suddenly, I wasn’t just drifting through my days; I had a routine and someone who relied on me completely. She truly brought me back to life.
As time passed, life evolved. When Lily was two, I fell in love, and soon she gained a new dad who cherished her just as much. However, as she reached four, we faced her first health challenges. Like many purebred cocker spaniels, Lily was susceptible to various ailments, from skin issues to ear infections. We embraced these difficulties, determined to care for our fur baby.
Yet, Lily wasn’t without her quirks. She had moments of unpredictability, which our vet referred to as “cocker rage,” a condition where cocker spaniels can display sudden aggressive behavior. We were in denial, convincing ourselves that our Lily was different.
When I became pregnant at six years old, our concerns heightened. We worried about potential allergies for our child and the possibility of jealousy or aggression from Lily. During my maternity leave, we bonded beautifully. Lily would curl up beside me, sensing the baby’s movements, and when my daughter Emma was born, she seemed to adapt well, joining us during feedings and even accompanying us on strolls.
However, the harmony shifted as Emma began to crawl. Lily started to shy away from her, retreating from the playful antics of a curious toddler. Despite Emma’s love for dogs—her first words were “puppy” and “Lily”—their relationship became strained.
Then, three days ago, everything changed. While lounging on the couch with Emma and her dad, Lily lunged unexpectedly, snapping at Emma’s arm and neck. In a frantic moment, her dad had to intervene to make her release. The injury left a mark on Emma, and I was devastated. All the justifications I had made for Lily’s behavior came crashing down, replaced by a wave of guilt and anguish. What if something much worse had happened?
Emma is recovering well, but I can’t shake the image of that moment from my mind. Every time I see the small scar on her neck, I feel a pang of regret. Thankfully, she hasn’t developed a fear of dogs and even enjoyed playing with my sister’s dog during a recent family gathering.
Tomorrow, I will be rehoming Lily. She will go to live with my mother in a serene beach town on Vancouver Island, where she will enjoy the fresh air and, most importantly, a child-free environment. We are fortunate to have this option, as it is the only solution left for Lily. I know she will be happy, safe, and loved. She once saved my life, and now it’s my turn to ensure hers is full of joy.
I remind myself often that this is the right decision, yet the pain of letting go lingers. Each time I see pictures of Emma and Lily together, I am reminded of the blissful moments we shared. Tomorrow marks the beginning of our new normal. Parenthood often requires sacrifices, and I am willing to make this one for my girls. Emma will go to daycare, and my mother will bring Lily home. Both will thrive in their new circumstances, and in time, I hope to find peace with my choice.
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In summary, I made the difficult decision to find a new home for my beloved dog in order to protect my daughter. While it was a painful choice, I know it was for the best, ensuring happiness for both my girls.
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