“Why won’t you take a shower?”
“Because Dad didn’t ask me nicely.”
I was taken aback. My soon-to-be 9-year-old was sitting half-dressed on the bathroom floor, adamantly refusing to shower because he felt he hadn’t been asked kindly. To be fair, my partner had likely made several polite requests before resorting to a yell around the fourth or fifth time.
Taking a deep breath, I glanced at my shivering, unwashed son and said softly, “I’m asking you nicely now. Please hop in the shower; you’re cold and dirty.” And to my relief, he complied.
As he cleaned himself off, I reflected on our communication dynamics. Too many times, a first, second, or even third request goes unheeded, leading to a raised voice at the fourth. I recalled my own experiences of being yelled at; it’s never pleasant and certainly doesn’t inspire motivation. I also realized I didn’t enjoy playing the role of the yeller. It frustrated me, strained my voice, and I often questioned its efficacy. While I never envisioned my home as a shouting arena, it had become one more frequently than my pre-parenting self would have anticipated.
By the time he emerged from the shower, I made a personal commitment: I would stop yelling. Even if it meant repeating myself twenty times, I would do so with calmness and a smile. Any necessary consequences would be communicated in a composed manner. I aimed to embody tranquility, especially since I wanted my kids to learn to keep their cool. This was a tall order in a house with three children under nine, all on a school break.
He stepped out of the shower and casually requested, “Get me my sweats.”
I replied with a grin, “They’re at the foot of the bed. Please get dressed.” Then I exited the room.
A few minutes later, I returned to find him half-dressed and engrossed in a book. “Hey, great to see you’re getting dressed. Please finish up, dinner is ready,” I said before leaving again. And sure enough, he came out just a minute later—fully dressed.
This pattern continued for days. I calmly asked, sometimes multiple times, but I never raised my voice. We survived the school break, two plane trips, and a four-hour car ride without a hitch. The true test arrived on the first morning back to school. I had laid out all their clothes the night before and prepped their bags, leaving socks, shoes, and coats ready to go.
That Monday morning, I woke the kids, guided them through breakfast, ensured they brushed their teeth, and got them dressed for the weather—all without raising my voice. We made it out the door on time.
Now, two weeks in, I’ve even got my partner on board with this approach. I can’t claim my kids are suddenly more obedient; they’ve had their share of squabbles, refusals to eat, and bedtime negotiations. We often repeat the same requests, but even on the fifth time, I remain just as calm as on the first. My patience has certainly been tested.
However, our home is undeniably quieter and more pleasant. This experiment is still new, but I’m cautiously optimistic about its longevity, especially as we approach the tumultuous teenage years. For now, it’s fostering a happier environment, and I plan to keep it that way.
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In summary, embracing a calm demeanor in parenting has transformed our household dynamic, making it a more enjoyable space for everyone involved.
Keyphrase: No More Yelling in Parenting
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