Dear Emma,
As I reflect on the world I’ve brought you into, I can’t help but feel a mix of frustration and sorrow. This society can be incredibly challenging for women, and I want to take a moment to express my apologies for the misogyny you will inevitably encounter.
First and foremost, I’m sorry that the world often fails to recognize women as equals. There will be those who undervalue you simply because of your gender, perpetuating the harmful belief that you are somehow “less-than.”
I’m sorry that your worth will sometimes be judged by your clothing choices rather than your intelligence, kindness, or courage. The unfortunate reality is that your brilliance may be dismissed if you wear something they deem inappropriate. You may face derogatory labels, like “slut” or “whore,” while those who truly need a lesson in decency seem oblivious to their own hypocrisy. Remember, don’t let their opinions dictate how you feel about yourself.
I wish I could shield you from the struggle you’ll face in proving your intellect. Some will overlook your insightful contributions simply because of your gender. When you respond with a well-thought-out opinion, they might dismiss it as mere “feminine emotion.” Don’t let their ignorance silence you — keep advocating for yourself and others.
It pains me to say this, but your brother may find certain advantages in life simply because he is male. If you both pursue the same career, he might earn a higher salary for equal work, and promotions may slip through your fingers even when you’re more than qualified. I am hopeful for a future where this imbalance is corrected, but it’s important to prepare yourself for the challenges ahead. Stand tall and fight for what you deserve.
I’m also sorry that some may perceive your emotional expressiveness as a weakness. In a world that often stigmatizes vulnerability, I regret that your natural bodily functions, like menstruation, might lead others to question your capabilities or decisions. Don’t ever allow anyone to make you feel ashamed of your body.
If you choose to have children, know that some will judge your decision to work outside the home, questioning your priorities. Conversely, should you decide to be a stay-at-home parent, you might face criticism for not contributing “enough” to the household. Ultimately, it’s your life to lead; follow what ignites your passion, whether that involves family or career.
I recognize that the world may not offer you the same respect you receive in our home, and I apologize for that. Yet, amidst the challenges, there is hope. Many individuals are tirelessly working to create a brighter future for you. We are advocating for reproductive rights, equal pay, and the dismantling of victim-blaming narratives. We are united in this fight for a more equitable world for you, your future children, and every woman.
The journey ahead is fraught with obstacles, but please don’t lose heart. The spirit of womanhood is not a burden but a celebration of strength, intelligence, and courage — traits you embody. Stand firm in your beliefs and never back down.
Keep pushing forward, Emma. You’ve got the power to change the narrative.
With all my love,
Mom