Hey there, my sweet middle child! It’s your mom.
First off, let me just say how amazing you are. You’re clever, entertaining, and brimming with passion—qualities I admire every day but may not always express.
I see you—yes, you—the one nestled between your siblings. You who might not get the thrill of being the first to achieve milestones or the nostalgia of being the youngest. Sometimes, it might feel like you’re caught in the shuffle of sibling dynamics, overshadowed by the perks and challenges that come with being the oldest and the youngest.
As my middle child, I want to share a few important things with you.
It’s true that you sometimes might feel overlooked when it comes to our attention. Try as I might to balance things, I’ve noticed this pattern unfold over the years. With our firstborn, everything is an adventure—we’re learning as we go, making mistakes, and that leads to them receiving more of our focus. And the youngest? Well, they’re the last baby, and every milestone they hit feels like a bittersweet goodbye to that chapter of our lives, leading to a bit of extra indulgence.
But don’t be fooled; just because it may seem like your siblings are hogging the spotlight doesn’t mean you’re any less special. You, my dear middle child, are the heart of our family, the comforting filling of our Oreo. You are not on the outside—you are the delicious center.
Now, your position in the family doesn’t define who you are, but it definitely shapes your experience. I know, because I was once a middle child too, and I wouldn’t trade that for anything.
Being in this unique position comes with its own set of advantages. You get to experience life as both an older and a younger sibling, gaining insights and lessons that others may not. Plus, you’re closer in age to your siblings, which allows for special bonds and shared memories.
You won’t bear the heavy expectations that often accompany being the oldest, and you’re free from the pressure to keep up that the youngest can feel. Being in the middle means you get to revel in those family moments for the longest time, as the others come and go.
Sure, sometimes it might feel frustrating not having a clearly defined role. But that’s also the beauty of being a middle child—you have the freedom to be whoever you want to be. Research suggests that middle kids often grow up to be more open-minded and skilled at negotiation—traits that will benefit you immensely throughout your life.
But I’m aware that you might feel a bit distanced from us, your parents, compared to your siblings. That’s something I’m determined to change. You are just as much my child, my heart, and my light as your older and younger siblings. I never want you to question your place in our family or in my life, not even for a moment.
You are my one-of-a-kind, wonderful middle child. Please forgive our mistakes, and embrace this role with pride. Remember, you are loved—completely and unconditionally, now and always.
With all my love,
Mom
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