By: Jamie Thompson
Date: Jan. 30, 2023
If you’ve ever shared a living space with someone, you know that disagreements about household responsibilities are almost inevitable. For parents, the stakes are even higher, as there’s always an endless amount of work to juggle. One particular blogger captures the frustration of feeling like you’re the only one holding down the fort.
Kristen Blake, an Australian mother of four, recently vented her feelings on social media about the overwhelming burden of managing everything at home. Her post resonated with countless moms who often feel they’re the only ones contributing, both mentally and physically, to the household.
After complaining to her friends about her situation, one advised her to be specific in her requests for help, saying, “People aren’t mind readers; they need lists.” So, she took the plunge and made a list: “Can you please take out the trash? Can you help with the kids? I’m feeling a bit worn out after doing it all myself for ages. Can you run to the store? I’ve already done several loads of laundry and prepped meals, not to mention handled all the kids’ school things,” she wrote.
While some tasks did get done, Kristen soon found it exhausting to constantly remind her partner of what needed doing. Eventually, she stopped asking altogether, and predictably, nothing changed. “NOTHING,” she exclaimed.
Frustrated, she reached a breaking point: “It’s not my responsibility to keep asking for help or to provide a list. We all have enough on our plates, and teaching someone to be considerate of my workload shouldn’t be one of them.”
This is a common scenario. Many of my friends find themselves in a similar position after years of asking for help. They’ve tried ignoring chores, hoping that their partners would notice, only to find that the laundry piles up and dishes remain unwashed.
Kristen continued, “Consider what it takes to run a household. Is one partner shouldering more of the burden? Once the nagging subsides, and the lists disappear, what’s left is often silent resentment, which can be detrimental to any relationship.”
“It’s not anyone else’s job to teach you to be considerate. That’s on you,” she concluded. And she’s right. When you see someone working hard, just lend a hand. It’s really not that difficult. “Just do the dishes without needing to be asked every once in a while, folks,” Kristen urged.
Amen to that!
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In summary, it’s high time that partners step up to share the workload without constant prompting. A little consideration can go a long way in maintaining harmony at home.
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