I can’t pinpoint the exact moment it happened, but somewhere along the way, my little boy began to grow into a young man. It crept up on me in small increments, almost imperceptibly. Yet, when I look at you, I can still see that sweet child with the bright eyes and a face full of chocolate. It’s jarring to hear the deeper, almost-adult voice coming from you. Who is this stranger? Where is my little boy?
Such moments are uncommon, though, because you’ve been gradually distancing yourself from me for several years now. Since the day you were born, you’ve been evolving in ways that often went unnoticed until suddenly, it hit me: my baby boy is no longer a baby; he’s transitioning into manhood. This is the natural course of life, of course, but that doesn’t make it any easier.
With your growth comes a newfound confidence, sometimes bordering on arrogance. Just remember, it’s perfectly okay to feel lost or uncertain. We’re all just trying to navigate this journey together. Even after decades on this planet, I still find myself feeling like a timid teenager at times. Don’t hesitate to ask for help when you need it, and trust your instincts — you’ll find your way.
Lessons to Absorb
There are a few other lessons I hope you’ve absorbed along the way. First, your dad and I have tried to show you that the phrase “being a man” is completely meaningless. Dismiss it. The same goes for “man up.”
Crying is not a weakness, nor is saying “I’m sorry.” Strength and sensitivity can coexist; bravery and kindness can walk hand in hand. Always hold doors open for everyone — not just women, but men too. Extend common courtesy by letting others enter the elevator first. This isn’t about outdated notions of chivalry; it’s simply about being polite and considerate.
Make it a point to leave every place better than you found it. When you discover someone to love, be genuine and transparent. Don’t engage in mind games; instead, let them into your heart, even if it means risking heartbreak.
If you choose to become intimate with someone, make sure you’re ready for the consequences. There’s always an aftermath. And remember, when it comes to consent — and yes, we’ve had this talk many times — “no” means no. Silence can mean no; even “maybe” can mean no. Only an enthusiastic “yes” counts. (And please, stop rolling your eyes — your mom is serious about this.)
The world has its fair share of unpleasant people. While there are also countless wonderful individuals, you’ll encounter a lot of jerks. It’s not enough to simply refrain from being one yourself; you must also have the courage and kindness to stand up against them. Advocate for yourself and for others, even if the issue doesn’t directly concern you. Speaking up is essential because silence only serves the wrong side.
Surround yourself with people who help you be your best self. Despite what society may claim, men are fully capable of grocery shopping, tidying up, and caring for children. You are intelligent and competent. Take responsibility for your space, both literally and figuratively.
Embrace who you are without shame, but never take for granted the privileges you enjoy due to your gender, education, race, culture, or socioeconomic status. Use that privilege to uplift those who are less fortunate. Always remember: we are all just a step away from being in a different situation.
Your brother is not just a sibling; he’s your ally. Even if you bicker and annoy each other at times, you’re on the same team. Who else will understand when you vent about your quirky parents?
And when everything else feels overwhelming, make a point to spread joy. Lift others up whenever possible. Strive to make the world a little brighter.
Love,
Mom
P.S. Don’t forget to reach out to your parents!
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