My children eagerly sprinted toward the imposing glass entrance, their little heads craning to glimpse the summit of the skyscraper. As I observed them, my heart began to race. A familiar wave of unease washed over me, prompting me to discreetly wipe my sweaty palms on my shorts. Despite the sweltering heat and Chicago’s heavy humidity, I felt a chill run down my spine.
Even though my feet remained planted firmly on the ground, my anxiety steadily escalated. As I reluctantly shifted my gaze upward to the pinnacle of the tallest building in the nation, I swallowed hard and took a deep breath.
“Thousands of people visit the top every day,” I reassured myself. “You’re probably not going to plummet to your death. Probably.”
I tried to muster some courage and mimic the excitement radiating from my kids. But the thought of riding an elevator to the 103rd floor of the iconic Willis Tower (or the Sears Tower for those who truly know Chicago) made me feel nauseous. As someone grappling with acrophobia, I’d much rather enjoy views from solid ground than from a dizzying height of 1,300 feet.
“Mom! There’s a see-through ledge up there! Can we go?” they urged.
Gulp. Why not?
After purchasing our tickets, I shuffled toward the elevators with the other visitors. As we waited for our turn to board the lift that led to my personal hell, I fought the impulse to shout that we should turn back. I mean, who in their right mind would step onto the edge of a building that high up?
When the elevator doors opened and I caught my first glimpse of the breathtaking view, I inhaled sharply, attempting to calm myself. My muscles tensed, my fists clenched, and a wave of dread washed over me. Logically, I knew the 103rd floor was safe and that others were reveling in the stunning vista of Lake Michigan, but my body reacted as if I were in immediate peril.
Let’s be honest: unless you’re a bird, no human needs to be higher than three feet off the ground. And even that feels like pushing it.
During our visit, I resorted to deep breathing, mindfulness techniques, and praying that I wouldn’t fall to my doom. My muscles remained tight because, after all, who wouldn’t want to safeguard against potential disaster?
Yes, I now possess a souvenir photo of me supposedly conquering fear on the Ledge, but the reality is that I backed into the spot, knelt down while maintaining eye contact with my daughter, and urgently instructed my son to snap the picture. A classic case of smoke and mirrors.
Living with acrophobia is no trivial matter. While every human is born with an innate fear of falling, which keeps us away from dangerous edges, those of us with acrophobia can experience debilitating panic attacks at the mere thought of being in high places. Our anxiety isn’t confined to standing at the Grand Canyon or atop the Eiffel Tower; it can arise from simply climbing a ladder, ascending high escalators, or sitting in nosebleed seats at a stadium.
Acrophobia affects about 7% of the U.S. population—roughly 22 million people. It’s one of the most recognized social phobias, and it tends to impact women more than men. Those with acrophobia can become paralyzed with fear just a few feet off the ground.
So, if you find it amusing to tease someone with a fear of heights by pretending to fall from an edge or a ladder, you should probably stop. Mocking someone’s genuine panic only reveals your own lack of empathy.
Common symptoms of acrophobia include shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, sweating, nausea, and an overwhelming sense of dread. When panic strikes, it can become so incapacitating that individuals may struggle to escape high places safely.
My most recent struggle with acrophobia occurred while hiking with my husband in the breathtaking landscapes of Utah. The stunning vistas of canyons and rock formations encouraged me to step outside my comfort zone. I practiced my breathing techniques and recognized my body’s fear signals, managing my anxiety for the most part.
Until I couldn’t.
On a particularly daunting stretch of trail, panic gripped me. My legs froze, tears filled my eyes, and I couldn’t breathe. As the anxiety escalated into a full-blown attack, I frantically searched for something to hold onto. My panic threatened to send me tumbling off the trail—one with a 1,000-foot drop-off.
My husband, a few yards ahead, noticed and quickly retraced his steps to assist me. As I wept, he gingerly approached and took my hand, grounding me. The touch of his hand, the reassurance in his voice, and his presence helped alleviate my anxiety enough for me to take a few steps toward a more stable part of the trail. Each step felt terrifying, and I didn’t exhale with relief until we were back on solid ground.
Living with acrophobia is utterly exhausting. Once I regained my composure, we began the slow journey back down the trail, sans souvenir selfie this time.
Accepting acrophobia means sometimes not reaching the pinnacle of a mountain or ladder. And that’s perfectly fine. There’s wisdom in knowing one’s limits, and honestly, once you’ve seen one panoramic view, haven’t you seen them all?
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In sum, acrophobia is no laughing matter, and for those living with it, understanding and compassion are key.
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