Category: Lifestyle
If you’ve come to the conclusion that your outbursts of rage—especially directed toward your kids—aren’t a sign of a sudden anger management issue, you’re not alone. Like many, I discovered that my anger was actually a mask for my deep-seated anxiety. As my therapist put it, the anxiety breeds stress, and that stress often erupts as anger. I’ve found myself in moments of despair, physically lashing out and shouting at those I love over the smallest of issues, like a toppled glass of water. The constant state of fear was overwhelming, and I knew I needed assistance.
So what do you do if you recognize that anxiety is behind your anger—an issue significant enough to impact your family and your children?
Prioritize Your Safety
First, it’s essential to ensure that this realization doesn’t trigger thoughts of self-harm. If you find yourself grappling with such feelings, know that you’re not alone—many have felt this way. It’s important to reach out for help. If you’re in the U.S., any time of day, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They have trained professionals who can help you through feelings of despair. Remember, those thoughts don’t define you; they stem from anxiety. You deserve support, not self-destruction.
Seek Professional Help
When it comes to finding assistance, you have a few options. You can reach out to your primary care physician, look for a therapist, or even go directly to a psychiatrist.
Your Primary Care Provider
Your family doctor might be the quickest route to getting help. They can evaluate you for anxiety and depression, often prescribing medication as the first line of action. However, it’s crucial to note that many patients receiving medication from primary care providers may miss out on the benefits of psychotherapy. Research suggests that therapy can be just as effective, if not more so, than medication alone.
Finding a Therapist
If you decide to find a therapist, start by asking friends and family for recommendations. Your primary care provider might also have preferred therapists they can refer you to. Online resources, such as Psychology Today’s therapist finder, can help you locate professionals in your area based on your needs and insurance. Remember, therapists focus on helping you alter your behaviors and thought patterns rather than prescribing medication. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy are both highly regarded approaches for managing anxiety and anger.
Considering a Psychiatrist
If you feel you need a combination of therapy and medication management, seeing a psychiatrist might be the best option. I personally sought this path and have been grateful for the comprehensive care I receive. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication and offer therapy, tailoring the approach to your unique needs. Start your search by asking your primary care provider for a referral, or consult friends and family for recommendations.
Navigating the Costs
Thanks to the Affordable Care Act, mental health care is mandated to be on par with physical health care, meaning your insurance should cover psychotherapy and counseling services. However, finding a provider who accepts your insurance can be a challenge. If you’re struggling to find affordable care, consider looking into Medicaid options, community mental health clinics, or local support groups. Many therapists offer sliding-scale fees, so don’t hesitate to inquire about that.
While you might come across alternative remedies—like essential oils or detox programs—be cautious. These treatments may help with physical symptoms but won’t address the underlying mental health issues. If your resources are limited, prioritizing professional help is the most effective course of action.
Lastly, don’t buy into the stigma surrounding psychiatric medications. For many, including myself, the right medication can be life-altering.
You can find help. You are not defined by your anger or anxiety. You are courageous, and acknowledging your struggles is the first step toward regaining control of your life. Remember, you’re a devoted parent doing your best for your children, and there’s strength in seeking help.
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