Recently, while browsing through TV channels, I stumbled upon an old episode of Everybody Loves Raymond. I can’t resist the humor from the cranky grandfather’s witty remarks, so I paused to watch while scrolling through my phone. The episode revolved around Debra and Ray’s eldest daughter taking on extra chores around the house, much to the dismay of Marie, Ray’s mother, who freaked out at the thought of her granddaughter doing laundry, cooking, and babysitting. The result? A hilarious strike led by grandpa.
As I chuckled, I couldn’t help but reflect on my own family dynamics.
My children contribute significantly to our household chores without any monetary compensation. They manage tasks like mowing the lawn, preparing their lunches during the school year, and unloading the dishwasher. They understand that maintaining their homework schedules is crucial, and they know that they can’t hang out with friends until their rooms are tidy.
They stick to these responsibilities not just because it’s expected but because we shower them with abundant praise for their hard work. And let’s be honest: they don’t always tackle their chores with enthusiasm. They’re typical teenagers, sometimes pushing boundaries and rolling their eyes. However, for the most part, they’re quite helpful with our daily routines, and I make it a point to express my gratitude for their efforts.
I can’t recall the last time I told my kids they looked good, but I can certainly remember the last time I praised them for cleaning their rooms or putting in extra effort. My husband and I made a conscious decision a while back to emphasize that our children are more than just their fashion choices or hairstyles.
This isn’t to say we never compliment their looks; we do! However, we prefer to prioritize their inner qualities. In a world dominated by social media, where images of perfection flood our screens, it’s easy for children to equate success with physical appearance. We want to steer our kids away from that mindset.
Success stems from dedication and effort. I want my kids to be inspired by stories like that of Hugh Jackman, who was once a physical education teacher before starring as Wolverine, or Jennifer Hudson, who worked at Burger King before rising to fame. Their journeys highlight that a successful career is built on years of hard work, resilience, and learning from setbacks.
I try to nurture this work ethic in my children by regularly acknowledging their accomplishments and character traits. I certainly don’t subscribe to the “everyone gets a trophy” mentality. If my son half-heartedly washes the car, I won’t shower him with praise; likewise, my daughter won’t hear “great job!” for a subpar bathroom clean.
However, I also won’t belittle their efforts, as developing a strong work ethic takes time. Just like learning to ride a bike, children need guidance and encouragement to finish tasks properly. Teaching them about responsibility involves helping them recognize areas for improvement. For instance, saying, “Hey, I see you did most of the car, but let’s touch up this spot,” not only encourages them to complete the task thoroughly but also fosters pride in their work.
When I see my kids helping out at family gatherings or being recognized by neighbors for their responsibility, it brings me more joy than any compliment about their looks. Their pride when praised for cleaning the kitchen after dinner shows they’re learning essential life skills.
Of course, I think my kids are adorable, and I often admire my daughter’s gorgeous hair and my son’s charming smile. I marvel every day at how lucky I am to have them, even with my family’s nose and their dad’s baldness. But when I see past their physical traits and recognize them as compassionate young adults who care about their community, it fills me with indescribable pride.
And yes, it makes those eye-rolls when I ask them to tidy their rooms a bit easier to handle.
In summary, encouraging a strong work ethic and character in our children is far more important than focusing solely on their physical appearance. By praising their efforts and instilling values that prioritize hard work, we can help them grow into responsible adults.
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