In today’s world, it’s all too simple to indulge our desires with a few taps on our phones. I understand this all too well; I’ve certainly done it myself. When my favorite jeans started to feel snug, I impulsively ordered new jewelry from an online retailer. It’s a quick fix for a deeper issue, much like how I feel about the prospect of online dating after my marriage ended.
While many friends have encouraged me to dive into the world of virtual matchmaking, I’ve realized deep down that it’s not what I need right now. It’s like trying to solve the problem of tight jeans by buying a necklace—ultimately, the real issue remains unaddressed. Yes, there’s a void in my life, but it’s a necessary one. I need to embrace this space until I’m ready for the right person to come along.
Perhaps I’m old-fashioned, but I long for my dating life to develop naturally, as it did two decades ago. Swiping through profiles and photos doesn’t resonate with me for several reasons:
- I Crave Surprise.
I want the thrill of spontaneity in my life. Knowing everything upfront takes away the excitement. Sure, I’d rather not waste time on a creep, but there are no guarantees in either scenario. - It’s Confusing.
Keeping track of all the profiles I come across would be a challenge. What if I confuse one guy with another? It would be embarrassing to mix up names on a date, especially if he thinks I’m someone else from the app. - Attraction Matters.
I worry that I’d be swiping based purely on physical attraction rather than genuine connection. Attraction should develop through interactions, not just based on a photo. After all, appearances can be misleading. - Honesty is Key.
Filling out a dating profile feels restrictive. I’d want to share my love for silly comedies and cheesy novels, but I might feel pressured to sound more sophisticated. Authenticity is important, and I can only be myself when I trust someone enough to share my true interests. - In-Person Encounters are Better.
I find it far more appealing to connect with someone in real life, perhaps at a kids’ sports event or even in the grocery store. Watching how a man interacts with his children or shares a dessert could spark genuine interest. - Real-Life Interactions Matter.
I’m not interested in meticulously crafted profiles. I want to see how someone behaves in real life, not just in front of a screen. If I can’t be completely honest about myself, how can I expect others to be? - Budget Priorities.
The money spent on online dating could be better used elsewhere, like treating myself to a stylish handbag. At least a relationship with my favorite designer lasts longer than a few hours. - No Need for Hookup Apps.
Many people use these platforms for casual encounters, and while that’s perfectly fine, I prefer to find satisfaction in my own way—like enjoying snacks at home with a bag of Cheetos. - Time Constraints.
With three kids, a job, and a bustling social life, I don’t have time to sift through countless profiles. I’d rather scroll through social media or tackle chores around the house. - Real Connections Still Happen.
Most of my friends who have dated online have eventually met their significant others in person—whether at a bar, through a mutual friend, or even from a plumber who came to fix a leak!
I’m not trying to resist modernity; I just prefer organic connections. I’ll stick to filling my pantry with Cheetos and frequenting ice cream shops for now. I believe my person is out there, and I’m ready to meet him when the time is right.
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