The human body is remarkable; during pregnancy, it feels almost miraculous. I distinctly recall the moment I realized I was expecting our second child—less than 72 hours after a brief encounter of unprotected intimacy. At 35 years old, I understood the odds were slim, yet I felt certain. Even before a positive test result, my mind was racing ahead, calculating weeks and estimating a due date in early December, which meant I would have a September baby.
In today’s educational landscape, being born in September carries significant implications. It became a small, persistent concern in my mind once I discovered I was having a boy—a September boy. As the years passed and kindergarten loomed closer, I could sense the discomfort of other mothers when they asked, “What are your plans for school?”
Many mothers who had chosen to delay their sons’ kindergarten entry shared their satisfaction with that decision. Those who hadn’t, and whose children later faced grade repetition, expressed regret, emphasizing the social pressures involved. They encouraged me to consider delaying my son’s start for the advantages he would gain. The reasons were numerous: fine motor skills, ability to follow instructions, emotional maturity—the list goes on. A recurring theme was the physical differences in boys; they noted, “He’ll be older, bigger, faster, and taller,” which seemed preferable to being younger, smaller, and slower.
As a professional in education—having spent years as a classroom teacher and now preparing future educators at the university level—I have extensive knowledge of teaching practices, developmental milestones, and the current kindergarten expectations. I also recognize that kindergarten has evolved into what feels like the new first grade. Despite my expertise, I found myself grappling with how to proceed.
Ultimately, I resolved to delay my September boy’s entry into kindergarten, but for reasons that may not be immediately obvious.
Our school’s registration process begins in January, and for months leading up to that date, I oscillated between Should I? and Shouldn’t I? If I enrolled him too early, there could be drawbacks; if I waited too long, the same could be true. Some days, I wished for a third option. I realized that I would need to blend my professional insights with my son’s own readiness to guide my decision.
While my September boy was undoubtedly intelligent and capable of navigating kindergarten at just four years old, I began to question whether he truly needed to take on that challenge. One morning, I observed him in his pajamas, with his head resting on the floor as he meticulously examined the structural integrity of his Lego suspension bridge. His intense focus on strategizing the next block made it clear that he was engaged in a profound learning experience.
At that moment, I understood: this decision was not merely a necessity; it was a choice I had the privilege to make. I recognized that my son had the invaluable gift of time, and I was determined to afford him that opportunity.
During the following year, we granted him the gift of time. Rather than rushing out each morning, we enjoyed leisurely mornings in our pajamas until around 8:15 a.m., taking a scenic route to preschool. Instead of facing extended periods of structured time, he embraced unstructured play, frequent dress-up sessions, and relaxed Fridays at home. He avoided the pressures of navigating crowded hallways or balancing a cafeteria tray; instead, he savored classroom lunches and learned to pour his own milk.
Today’s educational system places various demands on children, and these pressures only amplify the significance of being a September child. While I may not be eager to challenge the status quo, I am committed to safeguarding my child from its potential negative effects.
In retrospect, choosing to delay my son’s entry into kindergarten was undoubtedly the right decision for us. As the school year nears its end, it is evident that giving him the gift of time was the best choice we could have made. He started school on his own timetable, resulting in a confident, joyful, and eager learner. I believe his love for school would have been less robust without that extra time. While I provided him with an advantage, it had little to do with physical attributes; rather, it was about nurturing his happiness and enthusiasm for learning. In the end, I value his joy over any competitive edge.
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Summary
In this article, Jessica Thompson reflects on her decision to delay her September child’s entry into kindergarten. Drawing on her background as an educator, she shares how she navigated the pressures of early school entry, ultimately choosing to give her son the gift of time. This choice resulted in a confident and happy learner, emphasizing the importance of emotional readiness over physical attributes.
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