“No one ever warned me that grief could feel so much like fear.” – C.S. Lewis
As I lay in the hospital bed preparing to welcome my baby, I anxiously awaited the anesthesiologist’s arrival, yearning for the comforting presence of a mother. In my mind, she was there, holding my hand, offering soothing words of reassurance about the pain subsiding and the challenges of postpartum life ahead. Her calming voice would have grounded me, reminding me of my strength and capability as a mother.
But I am a motherless mother.
Instead, I had my partner by my side and the shadow of grief lingering in the room, as if I had experienced a loss. The truth was, I had never had a mother to lose. I lacked that nurturing figure who could inspire and guide me through the chaos of impending motherhood. Throughout my life, it has always been me carving out my own path, and once again, I found myself navigating the unknown without maternal guidance.
I am a motherless mother.
My partner often refers to me as a “resilient woman,” and while I agree, I recognize the strength I’ve cultivated through overcoming various adversities. Life has left me with scars, but I approach challenges with optimism. I learned to rely on my own resources and to trust my partner for support. Yet, after giving birth to my son, I sat in the hospital yearning to share the joyous news with a mother who wasn’t there. My heart ached for her presence, to soothe the fearful girl inside me and assure me that I would be a good mom.
I am a motherless mother.
The initial months of parenting felt incredibly isolating. This profound solitude made me acutely aware of the absence of a mother figure in my life. I longed for the type of mother who would create reasons to visit, excited to see her grandchild. This isolation intensified my fears, leading me to worry that I might replicate the harshness of my own upbringing, the very traits I sought to avoid. This fear unknowingly morphed into postpartum anxiety, leaving me wide awake at night, my mind racing with endless what-ifs.
I am a motherless mother.
For months, I battled insomnia and anxiety without a diagnosis. I feared that motherhood was a challenge I could not face alone. Eventually, I allowed my doctor to prescribe a sleep aid and made a conscious effort to surround myself with other mothers who inspired, supported, and shared their own experiences with me. Gradually, the fog of fear began to lift, revealing that I was navigating motherhood with grace and was not as alone as I had felt.
As my son’s first birthday approaches, I find myself sleeping well most nights and no longer plagued by feelings of grief or apprehension. Just as one must continue living after the loss of a loved one, I moved forward on this uncertain journey, relying on my inner strength and enveloping myself with those I cherish: my partner, my son, and my close friends.
I am still a motherless mother.
Even though my mother is not deceased, the absence of that relationship still brings a unique pain and emptiness to my heart. Whether one is a motherless mother due to loss, abandonment, or a fractured relationship, the grief feels real and significant. I understand that moments of longing for maternal connection may resurface unexpectedly, like waves that threaten to pull me under at any moment.
Perhaps it will wash over me when I hear my son utter “I love you” for the first time, or when I watch him wave goodbye on his first day of school. Whenever that feeling of loss surfaces, I am aware that it will hurt. However, I have faith in my ability to rise and continue embracing life, cherishing each joyful moment.
Because I am a mother.
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In summary, the journey of a motherless mother is filled with unique challenges and moments of reflection on loss. Yet, embracing resilience and finding support can transform grief into strength, allowing one to navigate the complexities of motherhood.
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