Abstract
This article discusses the author’s commitment to openly addressing body image issues with her daughter, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and resilience in a society that often promotes negative standards of beauty.
Today, I found myself doing something I once vowed never to do: I weighed myself in front of my daughter. It was an impulsive move; I activated the scale, tossed aside my pajamas, and stepped on it, only to catch a glimpse of her attentive gaze.
Before becoming a parent, I had grand aspirations of teaching my daughter about the beauty of our bodies as remarkable instruments that navigate life’s challenges. I envisioned conversations centered around “strength” and “capability” rather than “thinness” or “attractiveness.” I was determined to break the cycle of body shame that so many women face by modeling self-love, regardless of size. However, life, in its chaotic nature, intervened.
I lost countless nights of sleep, endured 8,500 diaper changes, and tackled mountains of laundry, which led me to drift from my original intentions. As I struggled to accept my post-pregnancy figure, subtle comments crept into my dialogue. “Mommy used to fit into these pants,” I’d remark, wrestling with a stubborn zipper. “Before you came along, I had a waist,” I’d say while rummaging through a pile of laundry. Unintentionally, I conveyed that my body was something to be judged and critiqued.
This morning, as I stood on the scale—something I had done countless times since my early twenties—I became acutely aware of my daughter’s innocent perspective. To her, I am perfect. My body, with its imperfections and signs of wear, is viewed through her loving lens. My soft belly provided her shelter during her first ten months, and my arms are the perfect fit for her hugs. She doesn’t care about numbers or labels. To her, I’m simply her mom, and in her eyes, I am extraordinary.
In return, I see her as flawless. Her radiant smile, her agile legs, her determination to master the art of using her body—all these attributes remind me of the beauty of being human. I feel her elation when she finally reaches a toy that seemed just out of grasp.
Rather than promising not to show my struggles with body image, a commitment I know is unrealistic, I choose to be transparent. I will explain to her that society can be unkind to women regarding appearance. Some people, including those in positions of power or influence, perpetuate the idea that a woman’s worth is tied to her physical attributes. I will teach her that such beliefs are fundamentally flawed. Anyone who objectifies women does not merit our attention or respect. Every individual, regardless of their gender or appearance, deserves to occupy space, be heard, and be valued for their character rather than their looks.
I will guide her toward a world filled with kindness and authenticity, surrounded by individuals who uplift one another instead of tearing each other down. We will acknowledge the importance of celebrating achievements and supporting one another in times of difficulty. Thankfully, many individuals in our lives embody these values.
Yes, I grapple with societal pressures that label me as “too much” in various ways. Ignoring my feelings would not equip my daughter to handle similar experiences. Therefore, I make a renewed commitment to her. I will be honest about my struggles. I will share that, despite being a strong and capable woman, I still feel the weight of societal expectations. Together, we will redefine beauty, embracing qualities like kindness, intelligence, and strength over arbitrary numbers.
And perhaps, one day, I’ll take that scale outside and let her witness me smash it with a sledgehammer.
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In summary, I am learning to embrace the reality of body image struggles while guiding my daughter to appreciate the beauty of self-acceptance and resilience.
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