Just last week, while walking from the parking lot to my office, an older man in a utility van passed by, fixating his gaze on me for an uncomfortably long moment before pulling into the lot. My anxiety surged, and instinctively, I positioned my car keys between my fingers—a familiar stance for self-defense. I was 27 at the time.
A few years prior, while waiting at a red light in a bustling college town, I noticed a young man leaving a bar, walking alongside the cars and peering inside. Aware of his intentions, I quickly locked my doors as he approached. Just as I secured them, he yanked on my passenger side handle and demanded entry. I accelerated the moment the light turned green; I was 22.
Nearly a decade ago, I regularly walked home from evening classes under the cover of darkness. My keys were always in hand, my phone ready, and I was familiar with the emergency call boxes on campus, meant for women in distress. One night, a male classmate offered to accompany me back to my dorm, under the pretense of needing to borrow my notes. Our pleasant walk turned sinister once we entered my room. His intentions were far from innocent, culminating in unwanted advances until I threatened to call for help. I was 20.
The year before, I was made uncomfortable by a group of guys while walking through my college’s administrative building. After making eye contact with one, he rated me, while another chimed in with crude remarks. My response was to retort with “Go to hell,” only to be groped while trying to pass through. I was 20.
Earlier that year, at my first fraternity party, I found myself dressed more modestly than anyone else but still faced unwanted advances at the door from a fraternity member. He only let us in after my friend kissed him. Inside, we witnessed multiple women incapacitated by alcohol. When we attempted to leave, fraternity brothers frisked every female, violating personal space under the guise of security. I was 19.
In high school, after being abandoned by a boyfriend for speaking to a friend from the opposing team, a guy friend offered me a ride home, only to suggest something far more inappropriate. I was 17.
Even further back, as a preteen, I endured harassment from boys in class; I can recall the embarrassment of being teased for my underwear choices. At 12, a boy in class thought it amusing to pull my underwear up, a stark introduction to unwanted attention.
At 27, I am now a wife and mother of two—one son and one daughter. It is my duty to prepare them for a world where “boys will be boys” and girls are expected to remain silent.
Some may dismiss my experiences as mere storytelling of unfortunate events. However, these are just the PG-rated accounts I feel comfortable sharing. I never confided in my parents, and chances are your daughter has kept similar experiences to herself.
One day, your daughter might come home and reveal that a boy snapped her bra strap, and you may regret not equipping her with the knowledge to stand up for herself. Unfortunately, she may not tell you at all, nor understand why such incidents occur.
My aim is to highlight that your daughter could encounter a far more severe situation. My dorm room encounter was a narrow escape; she could become part of a grim statistic. Instead of accepting rejection, a man could escalate to a far worse outcome.
Furthermore, it is crucial for mothers to recognize that your sons may develop into the very individuals who perpetrate such acts. It is your responsibility to teach them that it is never acceptable to touch a woman without consent, regardless of the messages they may receive from society.
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In summary, it is essential for parents to engage in open conversations about consent, respect, and personal boundaries with their children. The responsibility lies with us to raise a generation that understands the importance of mutual respect and safety.
Keyphrase: Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention
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