Updated: Dec. 2, 2016
Originally Published: Oct. 10, 2016
All individuals enter this world in a state of vulnerability, unencumbered by societal expectations or the opinions of others. Infants and toddlers lack the learned behaviors that dictate how one should express emotions or navigate social situations. They instinctively act based on their immediate needs. Unfortunately, societal norms often pressure us to conform as we mature, stifling our authentic selves. Observing my little ones—ages 3 and 4—has taught me valuable lessons about living freely. Here are five key areas where kids demonstrate unapologetic behavior, and how we can adopt this same mindset.
1. Fashion Choices
My daughter has an innate talent for mixing patterns with abandon, pairing floral prints with stripes and polka dots with plaid. Meanwhile, my son prefers wearing his shorts backward and even occasionally puts his shoes on the wrong feet, simply because he prefers it that way. While I won’t adopt all their choices, I aim to stop obsessing over others’ opinions of my wardrobe. If my jeans create a muffin top or my shirt highlights my post-baby belly, so what? My children wear what they want, and I choose to embrace that same freedom.
2. Self-Expression
Children often express themselves in creative and theatrical ways. They may sing their requests for dinner or dance to convey their feelings, like my kids who perform bedtime dances to help them unwind. Adults should feel empowered to express themselves too—whether it’s dancing in the grocery store when a favorite song plays or singing in the car at a stoplight. Letting oneself go can be liberating and joyful.
3. Intuition About People
Kids are remarkably intuitive. If they feel uneasy around a particular person, there’s often a valid reason. As adults, we are conditioned to overlook these instincts and give everyone a chance, but children trust their feelings. If a child clings to a parent in a social setting, it’s worth considering that they may be sensing something. We, too, have the right to distance ourselves from individuals who give us an uncomfortable vibe.
4. Indifference to Others’ Opinions
One of the most liberating aspects of childhood is the lack of concern for societal judgments. Young children are proudly themselves, unburdened by the fear of what others think. They openly share their thoughts, whether discussing their latest adventures or their dinner preferences, without a second thought about how it might be received. This unapologetic self-acceptance is something we should all strive to recapture as adults.
5. Honesty
Children are refreshingly candid. Recently, a friend’s son claimed my son hit him, prompting me to ask why. My son boldly stated, “I don’t like him!” While hitting is unacceptable, his honesty about his feelings is commendable. It’s okay not to like someone or something, and expressing that can lead to necessary conversations and adjustments. Kids exemplify that being truthful is not a fault but a virtue.
In conclusion, children embody qualities we often suppress: authenticity, instinct, and boldness. Their carefree attitudes and genuine expressions serve as a reminder that we too can cultivate an IDGAF mentality. As I encourage my children to embrace these traits, I am also learning to do the same.
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Summary
Children exhibit a freedom that many adults lose over time, from their fearless fashion choices to their honest self-expression. They trust their instincts, remain indifferent to others’ opinions, and value honesty above all. By learning from their example, adults can reclaim their authenticity and live more freely.
Keyphrase: Embracing Authenticity as Adults
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