This past summer, after dedicating a decade to being a stay-at-home mom, I embarked on a part-time work journey from home. The experience has been liberating, enabling me to focus on tasks outside of motherhood for a few hours each day, accomplishing goals, and even earning an income. However, amid this newfound freedom, I often grapple with guilt. Am I a good mother? Am I spending enough quality time with my kids? Will the summer slip away without creating cherished memories together? Do they feel abandoned?
Why do I constantly question my parenting abilities? Here’s a glimpse into my persistent self-doubt: “Stop! Your children are thriving, you’re doing well, and you still spend ample time with them. Remember that guilt you felt as a full-time stay-at-home mom? You feared not utilizing your graduate degree and worried about your family’s financial contribution. But perhaps, sacrificing your ambitions for a while was necessary. Maybe your kids do need you around as much as you think…” This loop of self-critique seems endless, and I know I’m not alone in this struggle.
Why Are We So Unforgiving?
Why are we, as mothers, so unforgiving toward ourselves? After all, we carried our children for nine months, endured labor, and even if we didn’t bear them physically, we pour our hearts and souls into raising them. We prepare countless meals, wipe away tears, and manage the chaos of everyday life. We’re the ones who remember when our children last ate, how much they consumed, and when they’ll be hungry again.
We are attuned to our kids’ emotional states, often sensing their distress before anyone else. Some of us even possess an uncanny ability to predict when the school nurse will call with news of a stomach bug. All of these responsibilities weigh on us, often leading to self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy.
Time to Stop the Negative Self-Talk
It’s time we stop this negative self-talk. Why does it persist? Is it fueled by social media comparisons or an ingrained belief from childhood that we’ll never measure up? Regardless of its origin, I’ve decided to reject it.
Here’s the truth, moms: You are doing remarkably well. Your self-reflection alone indicates your dedication. You’re present for your children, and they can feel your love and support, whether you’re physically with them or not. Remember, you are a strong, capable mother, and you must own that truth. Dismiss the negative voices, both internal and external, that suggest you’re failing. Practice positive self-affirmations, no matter how cliché they may seem; do it for yourself and for your children, who need to see a confident and empowered mom.
Yes, it’s challenging, and there will be moments of doubt. Life’s pressures can overwhelm us, leading us to question our parenting skills. But we rise again because the love we have for our children fuels us. That love is our strength, driving us to be successful mothers, even when we feel like we’re falling short.
Supporting Each Other
So, let’s support each other in this journey. I vow to silence the negative voices in my head if you’ll do the same. Deal?
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Conclusion
In conclusion, we must embrace our roles as mothers, trusting ourselves and acknowledging the tremendous effort we put forth every day.
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