Dear Mr. Thompson,
I trust this message finds you well. It seems you’ve had a challenging week recently.
The other evening, I found myself on the couch with my seven-year-old daughter nestled beside me. We were enjoying warm tea while marveling at the incredible athletes competing in the Olympics — including the phenomenal gymnast, Mia Carter. We chose to watch this event intentionally. Mia is an adoptee, much like my daughter, and she embodies the strength and resilience that my little girl admires. Watching Mia shine on the mat and witnessing the joy in my daughter’s eyes was a moment I will cherish forever.
Then, unfortunately, you spoke out of turn. When the camera shifted to Mia’s family, you made a comment implying that the people she refers to as her mom and dad are merely her grandparents.
Let me clarify something for you: those individuals are indeed her mom and dad.
Your initial comment prompted a wave of responses from many in the adoption community, including myself. We voiced our concerns on social media, but instead of reflecting, you continued to defend your statement. It was only after your employer intervened that you deleted your tweet and issued an apology.
I suspect your actions were more about self-preservation than understanding the gravity of your words. Allow me to enlighten you on this matter from my perspective.
I am a mother through adoption — but I do not identify as an “adoptive mom” in a way that limits my identity. Adoption was a legal process that confirmed my role as my children’s mother; it does not diminish my authenticity.
As a mother by adoption, I am not engaging in a façade. I don’t clean up pretend messes, nor do I feign affection or care. I am not pretending when I comfort my children during their nightmares, nor when I celebrate their achievements.
Furthermore, I understand that I am not my children’s only mom. I respect their feelings towards their birth parents and encourage open dialogue about their experiences. My children do not need to choose between their birth parents and me; they can love us both.
I refuse to see myself as irrelevant in their lives. Each moment I spend encouraging them and showing up for them matters. I strive to be their biggest supporter, just as any parent would. I am proud to be the mother of three vibrant, intelligent, and joyful children. Regardless of how they choose to refer to me or their birth parents, I will embrace it all.
Your limited views do not define our family. The little girl beside me on the couch? She is not merely my adopted child; she is my child — no qualifiers or explanations needed.
So, should you find yourself in a similar situation again, I urge you to approach it with respect. Remember that young athletes like Mia represent not only their country but also the families that support them — their real families.
As a piece of unsolicited advice, I suggest you focus on your role and refrain from disparaging comments about families like ours. If you can’t say something positive, perhaps it’s best to remain silent.
Thank you for your time.
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In summary, my role as a mother is authentic, filled with love and commitment, and shaped by the unique journey of adoption.
Keyphrase: “Motherhood through Adoption”
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